My Running Story: Why I Refuse to Do It and You Can’t Make Me
I hate running.
I always have and I always will.
Even though I fought it, I came to this conclusion very early on.
First, when the mean girls in grade school would walk around the track and chat. Whenever I would get near them to join, they’d take off sprinting. I’d go panting after them in my worn-out Keds, without a prayer of catching them. Good times.
Then, when my older brother won every cross-country meet, was the anchor on his 4×400 relay team and even went to the Junior Olympics. He was a track star, with the nickname Fast Eddie. You know what that made me, right? How unfortunate that both the word “slow” and my name start with an “S.”
It sealed the deal for me when I was always the last person to cross the finish line in shuttle runs, 100-yard dashes and basketball conditioning sprints. In middle school. In high school. In college.
So mortifying.
And yet, I’ve always been the type of person that makes up her mind about something and then goes and gets it. I kind of like that about myself, and I’m not too modest to say that.
I did it–I made myself a runner. In 2009, I trained for and completed three half-marathons in a year, with quite decent times, if I do say so myself. And then I blew out back (my disc at L4/L5), and my running career was over.
Thank the Lord.
I was not running for the right reasons.
Here are the wrong reasons to run:
- Because everyone else is doing it.
- Because you want a collection of “free” t-shirts, participation medals, race bibs or the right to put a sticker on your car that says “13.1” or “26.2.”
- Because you want an excuse to eat a bunch of junk food and/or massive quantities to “fuel” your runs.
- Because you want an excuse to eat jelly beans on Saturday mornings at mile 7.
- Because you think it makes you a better athlete or even more ridiculous, a better person.
- Because you want friends and family members to line up in the cold to make you feel loved by holding up signs for you and cheering.
- Because you think the only way to be the size or level of fitness that society and/or you are convinced is “ideal” is to torture yourself by pounding mile after mile on the treadmill or the pavement.
Here are the right reasons to run:
- Because you love it.
That’s it.
(And coincidentally, that’s the right reason to do pretty much anything in life.)
So that takes at least 50% of us out of the running game. I suspect it’s even more, but that’s for you to figure out for yourself.
Just because you can admit that you’d rather kick rocks than go for a run, that doesn’t mean you don’t want to be fit. I’ve come to appreciate that I can actually be healthier in every sense of the word without running.
A big turning point for me was when I read Mark Sisson’s article, A Case Against Cardio. (Thanks to Heather for alerting me to it.) The main point of the article is that plodding along on our treadmills or sidewalks has created a nation of “overtrained, underfit, immune-compromised exerholics.” Mark asserts that the path to true fitness can be found by combining some low-level cardio (think walking), some short, intense cardio (think sprints) and some lifting of heavy things (think weights and/or resistance training). And perhaps most importantly, enjoying it.
I’m sold.
While I used to run 5-6 days a week, proud that I’d logged 30-40 miles, it’s rare that I hit 2 or 3 miles now. In a week.
Three days a week, I lift weights.
One or two days a week, I do sprints (run as fast as I can for 30 seconds, then walk for 30 seconds and repeat 6 or 7 times) or intervals (I either cycle, walk, jog and sprint, or use the elliptical for 20 minutes, varying my rate of perceived exertion from 5-10).
At least one day a week, I don’t plan a workout, but I’m just active (Pilates, a short walk, a trip to the park with the girls or a living room dance party).
And on Sundays, I do absolutely nothing.
By my calculations, that’s about 24 minutes of “running” per week, at the most. And that’s mostly just sprinting and then walking. That’s more than enough for me.
I’m physically stronger than I’ve ever been and getting stronger every day, since cardio isn’t eating up my hard-earned muscle. My back is pain-free since I have developed the core strength to support my spine and don’t have the constant jarring and pounding of long cardio sessions.
I spend less than four hours a week working out.
And when I do, I enjoy it.
I’m not trying to slam all you runners, especially those of you who really do love it. I’m just trying to speak to those of you hate running and are trying to make yourself into something you’re not.
Stop it.
There’s an even broader message for us all in this—life is too short and too good to spend doing something that doesn’t make you happy, just because you feel the pressure (self-imposed or otherwise) to do it.
Don’t be afraid to switch things up if something isn’t working for you.
I never have been.
I kind of like that about myself, and I’m not too modest to say that.
I have to say…I do think running makes me a better person. It has shown me that I can achieve my goals. It has shown me I’m so much stronger than I think I am. It has brought me closer to my best friend and has given me the valuable “me” time I need as a new mom. So maybe that means I do love it after all.
Absolutely, Callie! I’m happy it has brought so much to your life.
I do love running, but I totally understand how people could hate it. Having had asthma all my life, I know what it’s like to loathe running…and watch people lap me around the track. What a coincidence that “asthma” and and my name both start with “A.”
I’m so glad you’ve come up with a workout plan that works for you. I’m coming over tomorrow for a living room dance party!
Nice! Oh and bring your fiance too!
Thank you so much for this! I too tried running because EVERYONE and their mothers were! But genetics play such a huge roll in everything else and I think they do for running too. My mom and I are both people just not made to run! Sometimes (when I used to try) I physically couldn’t and would have to walk right back home after a minute! Idk why but god didn’t intend for me to run! Love this post! I feel like I’m the only foodie who hates it!
Oh, I totally agree. I didn’t even scratch the surface of why biologically it is a nightmare for me to run–misaligned hips, low arches, etc. You are very right, there are some people that just are not built to run.
Hmm…this is a hard subject for me. Most of the time I hate running as well. BUT after I run I feel accomplished and have more energy. Plus running events really are fun. My biggest problem is that I am not a good runner, it has never come easy to me and it never will. I am comfortable running a very slow pace. So I feel like I have this inner struggle of wanting to run faster and pushing myself and then I really do hate it. It’s also a challenge for me…and I did run a marathon this year. But it has really messed up my hip and I’m only 22. What to do…what to do?
I believe that long distance running can be very hard on a lot of people’s bodies. It was on mine. I get that same feeling of accomplishment after I get a new max on a deadlift or a bench press. Or even just when I lift my big grocery bags and the clerks are impressed
If you enjoy it, you should keep doing it, but if it’s hurting you, maybe there is another, safer challenge you can take on?
Maybe try something else in the cardio realm like a fitness class (zumba, kickboxing, etc) or do weights (while focusing very very hard on form)? I tried running, too, and I get the same feeling of accomplishment that you describe (10k last Thanksgiving!), but my knees really don’t like it – especially since my left knee got banged up two years ago in a car accident.
If it messes up your body, try another sport. You and I are in the same boat – I’m only 23.
I stopped running earlier this year and now do weights 3 times a week, speed intervals 2 times a week, and am now trying yoga for added flexibility (even though I normally detest things that are slow-paced). Mama Pea made some really good points in her post; if you don’t love it, you don’t have to do it.
Try a kickboxing class or something. Parkour is pretty fun, too. My favorite is still dancing
Grace I could have written this comment (except sadly I’m not 22 anymore) I had to back off my training due to my hip pain and take a break, I lost a lot of ground (went from a 34min 5k to a 42) but I’m pain free now. I have a love/hate relationship with running – I love how it makes me feel but I hate how hard it is for me especially when I see so many people out there that make it look SO easy while I feel like sometimes I struggle with each step. Go at your own pace, find other things you enjoy too and remember that even if you finish last you finish before all the people that didn’t try.
Well said, Jaime!
I love your honesty and your message! I personally did a half marathon to say I did, and for the bling at the end. Not saying I never will again, but it isn’t my passion! …and that’s okay
Right on!
I found my passion for running pretty late in my 30′s and in school I was also the one who was panting around the track. Now, I love it. I sometimes have to laugh when I think about how I used to feel about it. But every sport is not for every person, and people do need to find that thing they are passionate about and love because why do something you don’t love doing? That’s a waste of time and energy because it’s what you “need to do” or “should do” I’m glad you’ve found something that works for you!
Thanks, Sheri. I’m glad you are able to enjoy it!
I completely agree with your hate of running! I could never put my finger on why I hate it so much, but just like you, I was trying to do it for all the wrong reasons. Add “because your boyfriend really wants you to be his running buddy”, and you’ve got me down pat. Thanks for making me see that hating running is not something I should be scared or ashamed of! As always, great post!
Thanks, Rach. Maybe you could ride a bike alongside your boyfriend?
I recently downgraded my running for the same reason- marathon training was making me miserable. I now do yoga twice a week, run twice a week, and do some spinning. I’m so much happier and feel so much more in shape!
Yes!!! Congrats!
I agree with Callie^^ running is my me time right now and I love being outside and just forgetting about all of my responsibilities and listening to some jams. Plus I love having a competitive outlet. So for now, running is working for me.
I’m glad, Maryea. We all deserve that!
I love your thinking! Life’s way too short to do things you don’t enjoy. I haven’t gone for a proper run in such a long time. Strength training and HIIT have become my favorite forms of exercise! The article sounds really interesting. Definitely checking it out.
I’m addicted to strength training too. Wanna compare callouses?
Bring it! I would love to
Just a quick question, do you workout at a gym or at home? What kind of equipment would you recommend getting for a home gym?
I worked out at home from the time Gigi was born until just the last few months, when I joined a gym. I only did that because there were a lot of lifts/weights I wanted to do (i.e. squats, leg press, pullups, etc.) that I couldn’t effectively or safely do at home anymore (in other words, I’m getting so strong!).
That being said, I think dumbbells, a bar with plates & clips, an adjustable bench, a yoga mat and some piece of cardio equipment (even if it’s just a jumprope)! are about all you need. Or at least they sustained me for about seven years.
I feel like I shouldn’t have read this right before starting the Couch to 5k program, lol. Still going to give it a try, though!
Ha ha! Sorry, Liz. Good luck with your training, though!
Love this. I use my workout time walking and doing resistance training. I’ve never been a fan of running, even as a kid.
Yes!
I love this article!! I do love running, but not always the actual act. I like being able to push my body and accomplish new distances. One part I don’t love is how everyone seems to focus on how fast you are. I am certainly not “fast” by any stretch of the imagination, but I have run two half marathons with my husband. It’s something we do together and running a few times a week gives me uninterrupted conversation time with my favorite person. So for that, I do love it.
That’s wonderful, Anne. I think working out with your spouse/partner can be so rewarding. I’m just glad mine doesn’t like to run either.
Hey Mama Pea!
Do you have any specific weight routines? Maybe you’ve done a post on this in the past–but, I want to try some weight lifting but have no clue where to start….
I have been switching it up quite a bit lately. For awhile I was lifting “like a girl”–high reps, lower weights and now I’m really pushing myself to get some muscle mass. If you are just beginning, I’d highly suggest the book The New Rules of Lifting for Women, otherwise, email me and I’ll give you some ideas!
Oh could you do a review of this book please?
To be honest, it’s been awhile since I read it and I feel like I’ve learned so much about weightlifting since then. I would have to reread it and I’m not sure I have the time for that in my schedule! I’m sorry!
Would you recomand it for someone who is new to weight lifting on her own ( I’ve done body pump wich I loved) and who is really intimidated by weight lifting?
yes! please post some routines!
AMEN.
Love your way of thinking! I currently training for my 2nd and 3rd marathon. I miss lifting weights, the stair mill, body pump, etc. but I just don’t have the energy to ‘do it all’ so I run. I can’t wait to get back into some variety. However, I struggle because so much of my ‘identity’ is bound up in running (I do love it). Ocassionaly I feel I can’t stay fit and healthy w/o running (of course i know its not true), I mean look at you! So thank you for this post, it is coming at a perfect time–I love to run, but I know there are so many other ways to stay and be healthy.
Becky, I hope you find some balance and get to a place where you are enjoying those workouts. I think it’s a shame that we are so quick to label people as “runners” or “working moms” or “religious” or whatever that label might be. We get afraid to try new things or admit when we aren’t necessarily happy stuck in our label or as you said, or identity. I hope my girls grow up learning that I want them to evolve, to always be challenging what they believe and have been taught and to make up their minds for themselves. And that they never have to be runners
You just described me! I HATE running, but I’ve been doing it for about 20 years now-ever since I laced up my running shoes and tried out for the track team in 9th grade. My heel always hurts, my hip hurts, sometimes my knee hurts-I just run through it because I feel like it’s a workout that gives me the most bang for my exercise buck. But I hate it. I ran today and hated every minute. I’ve been trying to do more yoga and spinning and weight training, but this post really inspired me to just give up on running. My body hates it and I am sure that I can find other ways to be active at are a LOT more fun for me!
Oh girl, do it! Your body is trying to tell you something and it’s time you listened. And, if you miss it, you can always start back up again.
love this post mama pea!!so many people are out there running for all of the reasons that you listed (because everyone else is doing it, because you think it will make you a better person, JELLY BEANS ON A SATURDAY MORNING, etc). i keep telling myself, “I really need to buy a good pair of running sneaks and hit the pavement” when every time i do it i absolutely hate it and end up feeling like total crap at the end. it works for some people, just not for me. im perfectly happy with my regular weight training and light cardio sessions. good to know i am not alone!
Sounds like you’ve figured out what’s right for you. Good!
Pregnancy can change a body in the strangest ways and even though I also dreaded every elementary-high school moment on the track I now really enjoy running – about a year post-birth. I started with zero goals and expectations which is about as opposite as my usual attack of things as possible but I think that is why it works this time. Thank you Mama Pea for publicly proclaiming the fun in running lightly and not training for marathons!
I seriously thought my life was going to end if I didn’t get to cross marathon off my bucket list. But think of all the hours of agony I spared myself! I’m glad you have found a good balance in your running story.
I’ve always been a runner, but recently I have decreased the length of my runs. Lately I have been doing one or two 3-4mi runs and 2-3 interval sessions on the treadmill along with 3-5 days of lifting and my body has never looked or felt better so I’m with you here!
Right on, Julia!
As my choir teacher from college said, “Running should be for games and emergencies only!”
Joking aside, I completely agree with your post. Brisk walking and dancing are my exercises of choice
Yes! I like your choir teacher
I like the sentiment, but the “running for emergencies” comment hits the nail on the head as far as what immediately popped into my mind as I read this article…
I hate running. Always have. Part of that is probably being asthmatic and out of shape and embarrassed about how hard it was for me. Nonetheless, I *want* to learn to be a runner. Not because I want a better body or to say I did some distance or any of those reasons. I want to be a runner because I realize more and more that if someone attacked me, I might be able to fend them off and start running… but I’d be pretty easily caught. I want to be able to run in order to ensure my own safety in a worst case scenario… and I think THAT is a reason to be put on the “right reasons to run” list as well.
This has me cracking up. I think I could get away, after a very swift and powerful kick…made more powerful by all the squats and deadlifts I’ve been doing!
Whenever I go out for a run, my boyfriend asks “why, are you being chased?”. I think he has the same mindset as your choir teacher!
I need the ‘running sucks’ shirt. Real bad.
It’s NIKE. I got one.
Love this. We (me and my husband) joined a gym in December and lift weights 3 times per week and use cardio equip for 30 minutes max (mostly elliptical and change up the intensity/resistance whatever it’s called.) We feel so much better doing that! We tried to train to jog a 10K and hated every minute of it! So much so, that my husband has vowed to never do one with me again and we ended up getting really sidetracked on our training because, you guessed it, we hated it. We ended up not doing the 10K at all (mainly because my father-in-law was in the hospital all week and we were so tired and undertrained.) I might walk it next year, just to say I did a 10K (and walking rocks). But I don’t feel the pressure to run it or jog it. If i’m in reasonable shape due to my exercise routine–it works. And I DO enjoy lifting weights. I think it makes me feel the most strong and toned I ever have and it + a better diet = more weight lost than if I hit the pavement doing something I hate. For those who love running–good for them! I enjoy what I do!
That’s good that you and your husband can bond over your mutual dislike! I thought about walking a half-marathon, but that’d just take too long. YES for weight lifting!!!
I do like running, but it tends to make me nauseous for hours afterwords these days. That is weird, right? And I don’t really like that.
BUT, I really, REALLY hate lifting weights!
Really? I adore it!
I’ve know too many people who have seriously injured their bodies running. Even short stints, not even crazy marathoning. I think you are wise to know what is better and more appropriate for your body.
I love the honesty and can so relate! I actually do like running but not enough to “train” for hours on end. It took long enough to figure that out, and it’s safe to say I’m not going to be spending any of my time here doing something I don’t totally love!
Man, don’t even try it with the jogging stroller. Ew.
I could have written this myself
The only thing I would add about why I like to focus on heavy weightlifting plus a little cardio mixed in is that I find I can eat more than I could while running, and still maintain my weight, and I’m just overall happier with how my body looks and feels. I’m always happy to hear other women spreading the message about nixing cardio for weightlifting – it would be so nice to have some more estrogen near the squat racks!
Ahh yes, it would. I’m the only girl in the weight room and it’s quite lonely. I think the boys think I’m all stuck up but really I’m just scared.
You go, Mama Pea! Show them girl power!
I just go with the flow and try smiling at all their jokes; lemon chia seed muffins would probably make them all your friends, haha!
[reminds me that I promised them vegan fudge...]
I love/hate running. I have injuries that make it hard. I’m not fast at all. I get overheated easily and get headaches. But I love the rhythmic pounding, love the in and out breathing, love the energy I get, love all the things that make running unique.
I VERY VERY rarely love to run but I adore walking – today alone was 13 miles
I enjoy reading and walking (and praying I don’t fall)
That’s awesome! I like to read books walking on the treadmill but have never tried it outside!
Kindle on the iPhone makes it easy… It’s small enough to see around to see if you’re about to fall in a ditch or walk into a pole. I also get my magazines on the zinio app so I can read those and walk
I too used to run and then ruptured and herniated discs. I had surgery and was fused at L4, L5, S1. My surgeon used a piece of my hip bone and coral. A serious back injury is no joke. I had to use a walker for 2 months. Nothing is worth bringing on more back pain. Walking is now my friend and I’m totally ok with that. I got a flex board treadmill and could not be happier.
Oh girl, I can so relate. Have you tried Pilates or just overall strength training for your back? It has made such a difference for me!
Mama Pea… I love this post. I run, not a lot, because I want to prove to myself that I can do it… However, I’m not always happy when I do so. It hurts me all the time. I do think that some people are made to be runners but I’m not. My feet always get injured, my shins hurt, my back… Everything! So I try to get in 5-7miles per week and call it good. With that, I bike, hike, dance, lift, and do lots of yoga. I think it is good to be mindful of what our bodies can and can’t handle and to change things up every now and then. Too much of one thing is definitely dangerous. Very helpful and insightful post!
Yes. I couldn’t agree more. Plus variety is just a lot more fun!
I read Mark’s article about a year ago, and it released me from feeling obligated to keep running. Even if something is perfectly healthy, hating it probably negates any possible benefits. Yay for lifting heavy things!
Kids count as heavy things, right?
Absolutely!
Man, I can’t agree more with that pictured t-shirt. I used to do track and field and cross country in middle school and I loathed every minute of it. I HATED it. It was torture. It was embarrassing. It did nothing good for me.
Now, though, I run despite the fact that I really don’t like it. I don’t like to really say that I hate it because I figure that if I really, truly hated it, I wouldn’t do it. Two years ago, I participated in my first (and, to date, only) 5k race. I was second to last. I had trained, but then caught a cold or something and stopped training. I did the race anyway though and it was those days of middle school track and field alllll over again. Here I am again, registered for a different 5k and I’m terrified, but I’m training my ass off. I want to run 10 minute miles because running for 30 minutes is just long ENOUGH.
Hopefully, this will be my redemption and I’m also hoping that I’ll grow to enjoy a sport that my father really loves. I’ve noticed slight changes since I began working out regularly. I have a terribly weak lower back and going Friday-Sunday (when the gym is closed) without working out really kills it. Running makes it feel better, which is the opposite of what I’ve always assumed. And I’m learning to run the “right” way with better form and posture.
Despite not totally enjoying it and really dreading this race at the end of the month, I feel proud when I finish a run, so I’m going to keep up with it! Power to you for finding what you love, though, and rocking it!
That’s amazing that running HELPS your back! Wow. I hope somewhere along the way you start to enjoy running, though, and not just when it’s over.
This is great! What a refreshing reminder to those who are feeling obligated or “should-ing” on themselves about running. Why has our culture made running the be-all-end-all form of exercise, when there is so much variety out there? For those who love it, more power to you! For everyone else, listen to Mama Pea and find what you love
There is SO much variety out there. And I hope women especially aren’t afraid to throw around a few plates!
What a relief! I always like feeling healthier after a run, but I must admit the act of running itself is quite a chore for me, and once I get out of the routine, I REALLY get out of the routine (like now). But I LOVE to hike and bike and kayak….. Thanks for the permission to do what I enjoy! (I may run now and then, but nice to know I’m not a total slacker for not really loving it all the time!)
I can’t wait until the weather is nice here and we can get outdoors for more non-running workouts!
My treadmill lives in my grandma’s basement if that says anything. I tried doing the running thing for awhile, but nothing has helped me get in shape, and be a healthier person than strength training (circuit training, more specifically). I get so bored pounding pavement. I don’t know how anyone can do it for longer than 20 minutes, let alone enjoy it. Cardio will never be my thing, and I’ve learned to embrace it. If I can disguise it as kick boxing or strength intervals, I’m all for it! I’m leaving my cardio to the occasional bike ride and walking the dog.
Well said, Mama pea. Everyone has their thing, and it’s high time we all embraced whatever that is!
I wanted to like it. Just can’t build my breath to run farther than a few blocks or so. Even though I quit smoking 4 yrs ago. Even though I couldn’t run before I started. I just can’t like it. I do it now to try & lose weight but I.m not a runner. I love to take long brisk walks with some running here & there but I will probably never run a marathon. Maybe a 5k or a fun run with friends. But never hardcore. And that’s ok too. Thanks for putting this out there!
My pleasure! I’m glad you aren’t beating yourself up over not being a runner either.
I tried running last fall, and I didn’t hate it. I thought I was going to. I worked up slowly from walking to running. And just when I hit a good stride, my knees decided that they had had enough. My doctor told me not to run anymore. I was devastated. I was actually enjoying my time out there pounding the pavement, even though pavement made things jiggle that I never want to jiggle in public. I recently graduated to Zumba (in the privacy of my own home, where it definitely belongs). I have added in Tai Chi and feel even better than I did when I was running. I wasn’t sure I could get that same feeling out of anything. But I did. So, I agree, do what makes you happy. Because in the end, you only have you to answer to.
I love the word jiggle. You should come do Zumba at my gym with me. I’ve never done it. I would make you LAUGH.
Thank you for this. I just can’t be a runner. It makes me angry— as in, “why the %^*# am I doing this!!??” I did a mini-duathlon and thought I was going to die.
So, instead, I started playing tennis. Lots of tennis. I LOVE IT. Nothing can get me out of bed and into workout clothes on a Sunday morning like the promise of stretching, sprinting on the court, smacking some balls, and trash talking with our standing doubles’ match opponents.
Thanks for making me feel better that I’m not training for a 5k, 8k, 10k, half marathon, marathon, ultra-marathon, or in the business of collecting “free” t-shirts.
Oooh, tennis is FUN! I would love to get into tennis this summer! Pea Daddy is going to love you for this
Take the girls with you… train them to be ball girls. It will change your life.
Careful with tennis and your back! I was a state champ tennis player and tennis instructor and have had two knee surgeries by the ripe old age of 26
It is such fun recreation but be careful! Especially if you already have a bad back 
Play on clay if you can.
I LOVE running, but I love it for me. I train for races because it’s just so out of character for me (I’m not jockey, more artsy kinda girl). I don’t like tshirts (free or otherwise).
Do what you love is always the best policy!
I am very happy you have found something you love and that your body is cool with that too!
Amen!! Love the photo of all your feet. I do love running, but I also don’t see it as the only way or the almighty fitness thing to do. Amazing what weight lifting does. I also love circuit workouts w/ short bursts of cardio (mt climbers, squat jumps, burpees, etc) with strength exercises.
amen.
Glad that you’ve found your calling and are doing what works and are being true to yourself. Life changes, needs change, things just….chang
e. What worked (diet, exercise, schedule, etc.) at age 15 may not work at age 30 or age 80. We have to give ourselves permission (and have the wisdom) to know what to change it up!
I could not agree more!
Thank you for this. I’m trying to figure out my exercise regime and I just always think that running is the best way to lose weight and that I should be doing it. I think I’m happiest doing an exercise video in my living room or taking my dog for a walk. I’m with you, thank you for the reminder.
You are welcome. I think I’ll have to give in to getting a dog just so I can take it for walks and call it my workout!
I don’t often comment as much as I read your posts, but I had to say for this one – I needed to read this. I read so many blogs where people are runners, I have lots of friends who love to run, and I feel as though I am missing out on something by not loving it as much as they do. I go to the gym regularly, I love lifting weights and doing lots of strength training, but try as I might, every time I step on that treadmill (or on the pavement) to run, it’s a struggle. I do it, but I don’t enjoy it. It feels like a chore. And I don’t think my body is designed for it either – my feet are so flat and without fail, the morning after a run, I hobble out of bed like a woman three times my age because my feet are so sore. I like hiking, and riding my bike as forms of cardio – and at the gym, I gravitate towards the elliptical. But I’m obviously not born to run.
I’m glad you’ve figured that out, Jane. There are so many great ways to use and appreciate our bodies! Thank you for saying hello.
Thanks
Oh, and like you I’m almost always then only girl in the weights room. I’ve had quite a few of them comment they’re really impressed to see me there! So go on, strike up a conversation with one of them 
I’m so shy with boys. I can’t believe I ever got married… But maybe I’ll say hi.
I’m so glad that you wrote this!!! I totally feel the same way. I tried being a runner a few years ago, only doing 4-5 miles at a time, and while it felt good for a while my body started hurting like crazy after a couple of months. So now I walk, hike, ride my bike and lift weights. While I can’t even imagine the thought of running a marathon, I hiked 21 miles in one day in the Sierra high country last summer… so amazing, I still can’t believe I did it!!! And you know what? I enjoyed every last minute of it
First time commenting… love your blog!!!
Thanks Colleen! I love hiking too. You feel so accomplished AND you have a beautiful view waiting at the top. I really appreciate that you said hello!
I love to run! However, something I’ve talked about just recently, is getting caught up in the “I’m not fast enough” mentality. I was comparing myself to other runners and I lost the joy. I finally realized what I was doing and said enough! I run because I enjoy it- regardless of my pace or finishing time!
I’m glad you found something that works well for you physically and mentally. It’s also a great way to show your girls that there are many ways to exercise, and still have fun while doing it!
That’s great that you are cutting yourself some slack! Who cares about the time? As long as you finish and are having fun!
I love running. Heck, I am an ultra-runner with a 50K and a 50 miler under my belt but sometimes I wish I didn’t love it so much. In my (ahem) older wiser (read: way less time because of two kids) days .. I now only run/train 3 days a week. Quality runs with speed, tempo or hills and a long run. I have completed a few marathons this way successfully without injury and being present for my family most of the time. However …
I have a nice “home gym” set up in my garage with weights etc…but I found lifting causes me to easily “bulk” up too fast…I have very broad shoulders (almost swimmer like) and I don’t like the way that looks on me (however I love Dara Torres and other strong women). I know I need to get past this fear. I know women cannot “bulk” per se… Maybe the lower weight higher reps are for me?
Either way, post baby #2 running alone is not cutting it in terms of this below the waist baby weight. OR really it could be Trader Joe’s chocolate chips …
Wow, you are amazing! As are Trader Joe’s chocolate chips.
I just want to say that lower weights/higher reps aren’t the thing to do (based on my research). I have broad sholders too, but I just try to own it and be proud of my body shape. Lift heavy, it is better for you!
I second that emotion!
I like this post, very thoughtful. And funny timing. I just (about an hour ago) got home from the most gorgeous sunny nighttime run in San Francisco ha ha. I love running though, and I need the running endorphins to get me through…life (yoga helps too!). I think you have to find what is right for YOU and it seems you have. That’s awesome. And the fact you feel strong, is even more awesome. Anyways, there is a larger point to your post and I respect that. I feel like the past few years I’ve been enduring the quarter life crisis and I want to do what makes me happy, in all realms of my life, but I’m just not sure what that is in certain areas. Hmph. So I suppose I will keep on running (just not away)…!
At least you’ll have a lot of time to think about it on your runs. You will find what makes you happy and when you do, chase after it!
I love this post!
I have always hated running slow, like jogging. But I’ve discovered that I love running fast! I love going to a huge field with the kids and saying, “Race you!” (And with my 8 year old son, I don’t have to jog along to make it fair…he wins even when I am running as fast as I can!). Kids get it right when it comes to exercise – they love to move and they move in ways that feel great, and when it stops feeling great, they stop! I was such an active kid, racing, climbing trees, playing tag, etc…none of those are long sustained workout fests, but it all adds up to some really good exercise.
My latest addiction is pole dancing – it is the funnest workout in the world for me! And interestingly enough, it’s not so much cardio, and involves a lot of flexibility and strength. I can’t get enough.
No way, pole dancing?! You are far braver than I am. Or perhaps graceful. Probably both.
Right on! I had a goal to run a marathon before I was 50…..boy was I ever glad to hit 50 and take the pressure off
. And no guilt here!!
I’m not much of a runner…in fact it’s probably safe to say i really dont like running much at all…but have recently started sprinting because of the LiveFit work out. Also with BFL I realized that staying physically fit doesn’t take hours every day.
Love you lady—-great post!!
xo
Thanks, Momma! I still love doing the BFL HIIT! 20 minutes and I’m done. Love it. Happy Easter!
I always feel like I should like running, but I just can’t seem to stop hating it
I love zoning on a machine to Tet my cardio on. Any exercise I can do while reading is fine by me.
Or to *get my cardio on. I guess I should stop zoning out so much!
AMEN. I hate running and running hates me.
Thank you for writing this! I have never been a big runner (bad knees and hips), and sometimes it’s hard to explain to folks how much yoga & weights do for me.
Amen Mama Pea! Well said. I loved running, but for the wrong reasons. Since I’ve discovered yoga and a fusion of ballet barre work, yoga, and pilates (barre3), my body is much happier. I’ll continue to jog once in a blue moon – but I’m no longer the cardio queen. I love listening to my body, seeing what it needs, and reacting to those cravings. I’m much more balanced than I’ve been in my life. Sounds like you are too! Your blog is so rad.
You are rad.
This was a lovely post! And so funny to me especially, since for years I swore that I hated running, that my knees were bad thanks to running, etc., and in the last two years have come to love it in a measured, three times a week way.
I agree with you completely, though – one should only run because she loves it. Part of my resistance was The Husband nagging me that “running burns more calories than walking.” Meh. It doesn’t burn any calories if you hate it so much you just don’t do it. Finding that exercise you love is so important.
Burning calories, shmurning calories! Yes, do what you love!
ummm….thank YOU! Geez louise thank you! I have tried and tried again to pick up running with no success. Reason: I hate it. I could walk for miles and miles but I can’t worth anything. And I don’t get any happiness out of it like I do walking or yoga or pilates.
Great post. PS Double ugh to the gym classes where they made you run around the track. Brings back horrible kept-everyone-waiting memories!
I agree…so embarrassing. I love a good walk, though.
totally great post! this really helps confirm what i’m doing now is ok!
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I used to make myself run for all the wrong reasons.
Now i just do it when i feel like it (i.e. sprints like what you do) and mostly brisk walk or swim.
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I don’t even do it for tee-shirts or freebies!
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You didn’t need me to tell you it was okay…I think your body and your heart already were telling you. (Listen to them–they are way smarter than me)
I often say, “I’m a walker, not a runner!” I never cared for running, either. Walking is legit, running is the pits! I have heard as of late that walking with a few sprints thrown in the mix now and then is much healthier anyway. So now science is behind my aversion to running. Yay!
Yup! I walk and then run like my life depended on it (for 30 seconds) and then walk some more!
I actually run BECAUSE I hate running. Spending years avoiding the things I hate doing is how I ended up at 234 lbs, with high blood pressure starting in my early 20s. A year ago I took up running and have lost 61 lbs. I haven’t been this fit since, well…ever. I was even a chunky kid who couldn’t run more than 1/4 mile at a time at my lightest weight. 2 weeks ago, I completed a half marathon. Finishing a long run makes me feel powerful, accomplished and that nothing (not even myself), can stop me from doing what I need to do.
That is amazing, Sabrina. Obviously it’s working for you. For me, I just am not going to force myself to do something I don’t enjoy. Maybe you are just a stronger person than I am
Major congrats on your weight loss, but more importantly, your lifestyle change!
I haven’t run in a long time. I always did sports in high school as exercise, both basketball and tennis. Once I got to college I had to find something else to do. I enjoyed running my first year and I still do, I just have gotten out of it lately. I feel as if I get into fitness moods; I haven’t gone running in a long time. However, I really like swimming, the stair climber, walking on the treadmill, or biking. If I want to do classes I go to Body Pump or yoga because I don’t really like strength training, but know it’s an important part of my fitness.
I love the idea of running. I just don’t like the process, the act, or the aftermath. So I don’t do it. He he.
LOVE this post! I have periods of really enjoying running, very short periods
and then long long months where I absolutely hate it. I used to run cross country in school and think I remember enjoying it. Anyway despite being on the fence what I have finally got my head around is that running absolutely sucks for my body! :/ After 5 days on the trot of running at a moderate (ok, slow) pace for 5 miles or so my knees hurt, my hips hurt, my body basically says a big NO to running. And I’m not going to force the matter just because I feel like I should be doing it! Skipping is proven to be just as effective as running an 8 minute mile fitness wise but is actually healthy for your bones! 
In fact the osteoporosis society advice at least 6 minutes of skipping per day to strengthen your bones, although if you dont have a rope I’m sure just jumping will do the trick! 
Lifting weights is the way to go! My body has changed drastically and I love the way I cam starting to look. AND it only takes me an hour and a half a week! I do 2 days a week of cardio too, but love weight lifting!
BTW, I made your tofu dippers! Yummo, will be adding those to my lunch rotation.
Brilliant! I totally agree with you on the weights!
Well shucks. I love running (like really love it) and you better believe I get my family up and out in the cold to cheer for me wether they like it or not. And I make them celebrate for at least a couple of days if I got a PR. he he. GREAT message though to help everyone. Exercise is something that needs to e enjoyed.
Weights are key. 
And um, I would like to come over for a living room dance party please and then eat some broccoli slaw.
That’s a plan, Stan.
such an interesting post. i DO love running, but have learned to love it while doing less of it [due to fertility issues, i scaled back from 30-50 mpw --> 10 . . . and i'm still loving my 10/week at 40 weeks pregnant right now
]. i believe there are so many different ways to find balance in fitness — but that balance really is key! and so is loving what you do.
that said, i WISH i loved weight training like you do! i definitely find that if what i want is ‘results’ they are the way to go, but i’ve never really been able to get into a routine that i actually thought was FUN. i do really enjoy yoga so at least that’s something
40 weeks! Oh my goodness, good luck! I think you’ll hold onto that need for balance in fitness (and life) very soon
This made my day!! I am SO not a runner and have felt somehow inferior because of this. Thank you for reminding me that I am strong and (I dare say) athletic without being a runner!
Oh my gosh, don’t ever feel inferior for what you do or what you don’t do!
When I did track and field in school the coach told my mom “Gillian can’t run, but she’s great to be around”. Honestly, I’m a walker for life. Walking is my therapy and favourite (underrated) form of exercise. These days I’m throwing in the weights too to balance my hormones and make me feel strong! I love it!
That is so wonderful, Gillian. And I’m guessing you are pretty great to be around.
Thanks for this! It’s not something we hear often, those of us new to a fitter lifestyle. I’ve always thought the idea of a marathon was crazy, and thinking that made me believe that I was perhaps a little bit broken;) I’ve been throwing some running into my mix, but I keep it short at 1-2 miles…and I always mix it up with yoga and circuits. I love how STRONG yoga makes me! My arms have never looked this good!
I love some nice toned, arms…
Ahh, great post! I HATE cardio, but I love, love, love weight lifting! When I realized I could keep myself in good shape by having a reasonably decent diet and lifting weights a few times a week, I was a very happy girl.
Me too, me too!
Amen!!
Good for you, Mama! I’m a firm believer that we should all find what works for us individually. Whenever someone remarks on my physical change and asks me “what I do” I tell them what I do and then say that’s what works for me. Find what works for you.
Running is responsible for kick starting regular workouts for me and it has helped me shed a lot of belly fat. When I run, I do 5 miles 3 times a week. I’ve done 10 miles before just for the challenge of it but i found that it wipes my energy for the day and requires too much refueling/rehydrating afterwards. Why should I do that just because people around me think it’s so cool that I can? For me, it’s too much and I want it to stay fun.
I do it because I love the outdoors, it clears my mind, I can be in my shoes and on my path before my mind fully wakes up and has the chance to fuss with me about working out, and most imporantly it’s FREE and requires no equipment. LOL With my crazy schedule running it’s a quick, no excuses work out. However, running alone doesn’t keep me at my best. I absolutely must include weight training and yoga workouts during the week or else I’m gonna lose muscle and flexibility.
Sounds like you’ve found the right answer: BALANCE.
This is such a great post! I used to run for all the wrong reasons and then I discovered lifting weights and weight training thanks to Marks Daily Apple and fitness is so much more fun now.
Good for you, Ashlei!
Thank you for such an honest post Mama Pea! I classify myself as a runner but not to the extent that I’m going to be out every day even in the winter, pounding the pavement. I run because I really do love it, but when my body tells me it’s had enough I try my best to listen and do something that seems more fun at the time. I really do love cardio, but sometimes just need to take a step back and do something else to keep myself out of a running rut. I think that a lot of people (myself included) feel like they have to log the miles especially when training for races, in order to be considered a runner. For my first marathon, I actually took about 2 weeks off of running within 2 months of my race date because I was having IT band problems. I’m so glad I did, because if I hadn’t I think I would have been too injured to run. As a result of the rest, I BQ’d and was super happy with my time. However, I didn’t end up running Boston because I felt like my heart just really wasn’t into racing. I love running, but just for the pure sake of running, not competing. Again, thanks for being so open and honest about this!
I think it’s great that you listen to your body. That is the key to all of this!
I love this post. Thanks to a new schedule that keeps me on my feet a lot, I’ve been rethinking my workouts and focusing on including more weights and yoga and less cardio—I’d much rather hang on to that lean muscle mass than run myself ragged.
Thanks to a funny little foot deformity, I’ve never been good at running, but I think that’s mostly just an excuse to hate it as I do. I’d rather walk and talk, drink coffee at the same time…
I’ve been planning a very similar post, because I am totally on the same page as you. I always hated running but made myself do it last year until I got satisfying times and distances. It was a mixed experience for me. I never push myself that hard anymore, but I discovered that I do like running more than I thought I did…so you can still find me going for a long, easy jog on a beautiful spring day.
But I am allllll over the weights and yoga…weights especially. I pack on muscle really easily, so it just feels more natural for me to train that way. Plus, I love doing what I love. =)
HI Mama Pea!
(@krissymmurphy on twitter)
Love your blog, and although I also love running, I love this post. When I commented on twitter about the edits, I just wanted to point out these two:
1. “First, when the mean girls in grade school would walk around the track and chat.” >> this sounds like a fragment to me.
2. ” I’m just trying to speak to those of you hate running and are trying to make yourself into something your not.” >> the classic “your”/ “you’re” error. This is such a powerful statement and really sums up your argument well, but can take away from it since the wrong form is being used.
Oh wow, thanks. I’m leaving the fragment
But I’m totally embarrassed by the your/you’re thing. Ick.
NP! I got your back, Mama!
Amen to that sister! I’ve been going to spin class 2-3 days a week and feel better than I have in a long time. No more forced runs and certainly no more hours staring at my basement wall on the treadmill!
You’ve seen my garage set up. And to think I trained for a half-marathon on that hamster wheel in my garage!
Thank you SO much for this post! I was supposed to run my first half last weekend, but in the middle of training, “life” happened. Or, more aptly put: grad school happened/got insane… preventing me from having a life in more than one way. I’ve been beating myself up for letting so many things “slip,” including the stupid half that I absolutely just wanted to do for an ego boost.
Your honesty is appreciated on so many levels, but especially this time because it directly affected me, and CLEARLY I’m a narcissist. Who else would (try to…) force their body to do something it clearly does not want to do
Oh girl, training for a half during grad school? You need to ease up on yourself!
Yes yes and yes! You hit it right on. I am one of those people who do love it, but so often I see/teach people who actually don’t like it and I just want to tell them that they don’t need to keep forcing themselves through something they hate every minute of. I don’t like swimming as a form of exercise . . . So I haven’t gone in 6 years. And I love it like that. Find what you love and then you will just love doing it and exercise will never again be a chore, or a task you have to do. Well mostly never anyways!
Well put, Laura! I’m not a swimmer either…
You know, since being hurt with this hip injury it has made me see running in a whole different light and realize exactly how I feel about it. I really appreciated your opinions in this post and too believe that many people run for the reasons you listed above. Although now the official marathon distance is 27 miles so don’t worry, having a 26.2 sticker is kaput. Bahaha…ok, I kid. But you’re right in your explination. <3
Really? I remember when you were here I kept almost interrogating you because I was so confused about how you could actually love running!
My guess is for you, and this is merely speculation, that your true feelings lie in the middle of the spectrum. Sometimes injuries are good for us. I really do see my back issues as a Godsend and maybe even an escape route that I really wanted.
This post came at the perfect time for me. While I do like running, I’m battling my third round of stress fractures and will not be able to run anymore. Reading this is a great reminder that I can be in shape and do other things that I love (once I’m off the crutches, of course…). Thanks!!
I’ve had stress fractures too, and the best advice I can give is to lay off the high impact stuff to fully let them heal!
100% agree!
I could not agree more. Running blows. I felt like I had to jump on that bandwagon because every other blogger was sooo into it. I recently got into lifting and absolutely love it. I still love my cardio (biking) but I am seeing great differences in my body from lifting three times a week!
Nice! I definitely was influenced by all the running cheerleading in the blog world. Not that it doesn’t have it’s place or merit, but I a was definitely a square peg and I’m totally okay with that now.
Ahh! I love this. I have been a runner since I was 12. Ran competitively in middle school, high school and on my college cross country team. And while I do love running (I think of it as therapy), I have NEVER had the urge to train for and run a marathon (I’ve done several half marathons), which my fellow runners think is weird. I have several reasons: 1. I was always more of a middle distance runner and 4 hour runs just don’t appeal to me. 2. I HATE to force myself to run. Since I ran competitively for more than 12 years, I’m so over being forced to run. I ran in the heat, the cold, the ran, the snow – every element you can imagine. Now, if I don’t HAVE to run outside, I don’t force myself to run outside. It’s as simple as that. Now, I’ve realized if I want to take the dog for a walk, that can count as my cardio for the day. I don’t have to go out and run 5-6 miles at a 8-min mile pace to feel good about myself every day. But there are still those days that I do love a good, hard, long run. The point is, being active can still be enjoyable.
Yes! And if fitness is supposed to be a life long pursuit, it’s best to find not only enjoyable routes but less harmful ones for those of us who aren’t physically suited for long distances.
I am with you on this one, I think running sucks. I have never been a runner, but I always admired those who did it because they enjoy it.
I would much rather have other forms of exercise, preferably in the great outdoors chilling with my kids.
I slipped the same discs in my back from running just last year. I’m (probably stupidly) still doing it, but I’m coming to the realization with each run I do that I’m going to have to give it up eventually as well. I wish I hated it! I unfortunately love it and feel so sad to have to give it up!
I urge you to at least come down on the distances. I’m not sure what your training looks like, but for me, anything over 3 or 4 miles and I was definitely getting further wear and tear on those discs. You don’t want to have a full blown rupture like I did. It was miserable.
Unfortunately that’s exactly what happened to me! I blew right past the bulging disc stage into a full-on herniation of them. I’m definitely not running any more than 3 or 4…the way my disc ruptured there’s a section of the spine that’s now pressing on the nerve which causes my whole right leg to go numb down to the toes…so anything over that and I’m in too much pain! I love running…but not enough to deal with a numb leg all day!
Wow, that really does sound like we had identical injuries! My right leg lost all feeling from the thigh to the toes. Even now I have complete numbness in my fourth toe, but besides my surgical scar, that’s the the only reminder I have!
Well that at least gives me hope that if I have persistent numbness eventually there’s hope! Luckily the numbness comes and goes right now and isn’t constant…but I’ve always worried that if it got that way that I’d be doomed! Good to know surgery helped you!
Loved this post! I’m training for 2 half marathons in a month and I’m not sure if i’m even going to be able to do them because I’m moving. But I have decided that when I’m done, I’m going to focus more on weight lifting & yoga! I love those 2 activities and that’s how I will really be bikini ready…not by running
2 in a month?! Oh girl.
Thanks so much for this post! I hurt my back in high school, and ever since then, running has been more painful than not. On the days my back doesn’t hurt, I really enjoy running. But those days don’t happen too frequently. For some reason, though, I have a hard time letting go of the idea that to be really fit you have to be a runner–never mind the fact that I do more strength training than I used to when I ran more and have a much more varied workout regimen. So thanks for this encouragment!
My pleasure! I encourage you to keep up with the weights–it will only help your back!
Sarah, I love Love LOVE this post! It is almost my exact personal experience with running and not running. What a relief when I finally let myself off the hook a year ago and i havent ran since. and now when anyone asks me if I run I proudly and emphatically respond with ” no! I hate running!’ and that feels way better than any run I ever made myself take
I think we always assume that if people don’t run they are couch potatoes, which in actuality, there is a broad spectrum and variety of fitness levels!
You would think I would hate running after all the torment it has done to my body. I too, suffered a “blow out” on my back (L4-L5), requiring a Lamenectomy & discectomy. I had to wait FOUR LONG MONTHS before I was given the all clear to run again…but I had to build up to it from a walk/jog. Then this past winter I jacked up my *good* knee (my *bad* knee was injured in a soccer game), this most recent surgery left me on crutches for two weeks & rehab for four months. I am now back to my every day routine of beautiful running therapy!
I love running. I love how it allows me alone time, it also granted me one on one time with our daughter as she trained for (& completed) her first half last year. Running is great and dandy…but a runner is only as strong as her/his muscles. And as we all know, it takes weight training to get them! I enjoy BodyPump class a few times a week as well as good old fashioned free weights.
A few years ago I decided to get back to other things I love as well, like swimming & cycling…which as luck would have it, are all the events in a triathlon! So I have no full maras on the horizon, just a bunch of tris this year. I love everything about a tri, including training. Life is WAY too short to spend it doing your “fitness” on something you hate. So take the time to find what you enjoy for fitness, you will get so much more out of the workout!
I really pray that you stay pain-free and keep a healthy back through all your fitness pursuits!
Oops as I read your response I realized I left a few words out. Most importantly it should’ve said how I “hope” to be back at classes & free weights (lower body) a couple times a week. For now, limited to machine weights…for safety, to avoid reinjury. And thank you for the kind thoughts!
Amen to that! Hate running, love yoga!
great, great post! I am one of the few who did love running. My injury that ended my running ‘career’ was unfortunately not something that i was happy about. I have yet to find something that I ‘love’ as much, but as you say, there are ways to stay active that are actually way better for one’s joints, and dare I say, mental health! I think your approach highlights the moderation that I was never able to find while running!
I hope you keep trying new things. You never know what could be “it” for you, so don’t rule anything out!
Thanks for this post! I’ve never been interested in running…but I have to admit that through reading a lot of Healthy Living blogs I started to feel like it was something I SHOULD do. Maybe some day I’ll do a ‘Couch to 5k’ training program or something, but I think for now I’ll stick to biking and yoga and feel great about that decision
FIrst, I love your website! Your writing style is incredible.
i definitely agree that there are days that I run even though I really, really don’t want to and I appreciate you sharing your story- exercise really is all about finding what works best for you and doing what you enjoy. The picture of you with your two daughters working out with you…precious.
Thanks for this post. I read it this morning before I ran on my treadmill at 6 AM in a humid, 73 degree basement.
Thank you, Kelly! I appreciate your comment and compliments.
Good for you!! I really DO love running…but I run SLOWLY. Like a turtle. I used to work and work and work to speed up my running, but I just like it more when it’s slow, so that’s how I run these days. It’s good to just do what you like.
Like a turtle! Hee hee.
Sometimes the day just screams, “Go for a run.” Those days are usually mid-70s, sunny with a few clouds, breezy, and no humidity. #fairweatherrunner
Most of the time I stick to yoga and zumba which make me feel super alive and sensual and fantastic. I also take a bit more of a “European view on things: walk more, drive less! I walk to work (in all weather, unfortunately). Its cheaper, greener, and healthier!
Last but not least, thank you for this post. Its a great reminder to do what we love…not only will we stick with it, it will also help keep us healthier (playing the mind-body connection card here).
That mind-body connection is so huge! I found myself telling my mind to shut up when I was running instead of just really listening to it like I should be.
YUP. Plus I feel like we get way more benefits when we are enjoying ourselves while working out vs pushing ourselves to be something we’re not! I’m a dancer and yogi, not a runner, and I’m totally ok and happy with that. For now…who knows what the future will bring.
PS Love the new pics!
I have to admit, the idea that I don’t have to get off the treadmill dripping with sweat, naseous and sore from the waist down three to four days a week is appealing. At the same time, it’s hard to wrap my mind around the fact that I DON’T need to do that. Tried 30 second sprints today though, turns out they’re more fun than chugging along for thirty minutes counting backwards the seconds till you’re done. I may give this a try.
Definitely more fun and I’ll think you’ll find more effective too!
great post!
I love running!
But when I look around me I see many people doing it for the wrong reasons (mainly because they think that they’re going to lose weight super fast), They start to run without have the right shoes, they overtrain, hurt themself or just complain after every run that it’s boring! it’s sad but running (like any other sport) is not for everybody. If you keep getting hurt you might want to take it as a clue. And if you’re not enjoying it just stop! It’s okay.
Plus I feel like some people see training as a big competition where you can never do enought! I do marathons because I love the training! But no, I don’t plan on doing a triathlon. Or to run 100K. Or whatever is supposed to be next. I do what I love because I love it. Not because other people around me are doing it.
Great attitude, Ce!
Thank you for posting this!! I have tried to make myself a “runner” before, because I thought I had to be good at it to consider myself a runner… and it wasn’t fun! Now, running just for enjoyment is a thousand times better!!
Great post! I attempted to train for a half marathon a few months ago, but found once I got out there running was boring! So I stopped. I found I love weight training and “boot camp” fitness classes, so I’ve been doing those and have never felt stronger!
Good for you, Amy!
I am a zen runner, one who has never timed or measured distance of a run, I look at my running or exercise of any sort as a symbol of my commitment to my health and it is always enjoyable and meaningful for that reason. I agree there has to be a bigger purpose beyond the act of running itself to reap the true benefits.
I like your approach!
I absolutely love this post! I enjoy short, slow runs. And I have no interest in changing that. I do exercise that makes me happy — yoga is the star — and have never felt compelled to train for a marathon simply because everyone else is doing it. Let them: I prefer to savor the privilege of being active.
Definitely, Gena. And I think those of us who have had health problems, be they injury or illness, really have learned to savor that privilege.
The only problem is you have to suffer through the “this sucks” feeling to get to the “this is awesome” feeling sometimes. It took me a year to get really comfortable running and now I LOVE it!! As long as you don’t let the “this is hard” feeling rule out the “this could be fun” feeling, I agree with the sentiment. Life’s too short to spend much time doing things that aren’t fun. Find a way to stay active that you love! =)
I agree that there is a distinction between “this is hard” and “this is harmful.” For me, running was definitely the latter.
Wow – how timely! I’ve been a runner for 20 years (I started early, I’m only 33) because I loved it. LOVED IT. I’m talking collegiate cross country, coaching, triathlons, marathons, everything. Notice the past tense – in the last 3 weeks, I’ve stopped running within 10 minutes of starting 5 out of 6 times whenever I run alone. I’ve been losing motivation for a long while now and wondering “why???” I finally decided this Saturday – enough! Give it up! Let it go and do what I want. Define a new me – it’s ok. There plenty of options. I’ve been loving swimming and dreaming about my bike, looking into P90X, pulling out my pilates dvd, etc. We’ll see where this take me :}
Good luck, Maaike! And just know that nothing has to be forever. If you miss running, there’s nothing to say you can’t start back up again. My guess is your body just might need a little break!
I can’t get over how much this speaks to me – and yes, I read a book called The Hormone Diet by naturopath Natasha Turner and she also advocates the cardio/weight training rule you mentioned. It sounds good to me! I do think running is really hard on the body so I have avoided it in the past because of knee and back issues and to be honest, I never really liked it anyway!
I think running is tied to personality a lot. I am an introvert and love to be able to meditate and be solitary. There are not many activities where you can be on your own in the middle of nature. And well, being outside and surrounded by nature is another reason I run. Cycling has the same quality, but there is something about being on your feet and being your own human transportation system.
When I run I try to be as relaxed in my body as possible, I release all my body parts so that the running becomes smooth, as if I was in water. That has helped me tremendously with pains.
Also, I am lazy and love the idea of only having to put my sneakers on and getting out of the door. It does not feel like exercise to me, but just something that is part of my being.
I tried weights before but there is something artificial about it that bothers me. Also, weight training bulks me very quickly. I tried crossfit in fact for 2 months and could hardly fit in my jeans any longer. I have to admit that this scared me and I went back to running. Do I run for exercise? I’m not sure. It definitely helps me with eating, as I am able to eat much more and not be afraid of it, but truly running is much more than that to me. It makes me feel strong. Runners may often look thin, but many of them are actually strong.
Not sure what I am trying to say. I think where your heart is, your treasure is. If you love to do something, do it. That “it” will be different for each one of us. There is not a good answer and a bad answer. We are all different, shaped differently, with different modes of beliefs. A sport might work for someone and not work for someone else. No wrong answer, or rather no wrong activity.
Great post.
F
You raise some good points, F. I totally agree that where your heart is, your treasure is and that we all have to determine what is right for us.
I just see so many “fit” young women punishing themselves on the treadmills and cardio equipment for the wrong reasons. A few of your comments in particular tug at my heart:
“I could hardly fit in my jeans any longer. I have to admit that this scared me” and
“It definitely helps me with eating, as I am able to eat much more and not be afraid of it.”
I wish we could all be in a place where we don’t fear gaining strength (even at the expense of a jean size) or eating healthy, nourishing food to sustain our bodies. I’m not trying to be critical–I sincerely hope you are in that place!
Thank you for your reply! I don’t know if I am in that place. I have some peace at least and found something that makes me happy. I am definitely dealing with body issues, but have gained some equilibrium (I think). I love your blog, this is my first time commenting on it. Have a good evening!
F
Thanks so much. And FYI, my jeans are feeling snug lately. I just tell the part of me that minds to “shut up” and then put on my yoga pants. Hope you have a good evening too!
I have mixed feelings about this post. I mean, we do things all the time that we don’t like to do, like flossing or mouth wash, or avoiding that piece of cake. That is a part of being a grownup. We go to work everyday, even if we like our job, we still have parts of it we have to do.
Yes, I don’t think one should force themselves to run if they don’t like it. But they should try different types of cardio until they can find a few they like. I also hope no one takes this post to say, oh, well, I hate running, so let’s quit and replace it with sitting around. The best way to be regular about exercise is to find some you like and to mix it up. I don’t think one should do the same exercise all the time.
Me, I prefer walking and just walked my first ever half marathon and love biking. Mainly I like to be outside and walking seems so much easier on the body. I want my body to last me a long time and I don’t want the injuries that so many runners seem to get. I am hoping that walking won’t give those to me, even some speed walking/intervals. But I don’t train hard every time either, or walking would loose it’s allure too. As I don’t do real rest days, I do pleasure walks sometimes, where it isn’t about distance or time, it is just me enjoying the ipod and being outside going a different, totally unplanned direction. (I love that I can map it after I get home and see how far I walked.)
For me exercise is about burning some calories and being healthy. Not about some excessively slim and trim figure, or always about challenging myself, etc. (But I do like a challenge sometimes, hence the half marathon.) I love food and regular exercise allows me to eat a little more, and yes, I do eat healthy, not lots of junk. I do prefer healthy, except for ice cream. I love ice cream.
Probably my next challenge is going to be extending my bike rides a bit, and maybe working on speeding up my 5K and 10ks and yes, I mean walking, not running. I am not and I doubt I ever will be a runner. I find walking easier on the body and on the asthma. The biking actually can test my asthma a bit, used to be way worse on my asthma going up a hill, but that has gotten a ton better.
In conclusion, we do things all the time that we don’t love to do, but hopefully we enjoy the overall benefits and hopefully we can tend to make them things we do enjoy. So much easier to be regular about exercise if we enjoy it. Now if I can just find strength training that I enjoy. I have tried exercise balls, resistance bands, hand weights and other such things and don’t hate them, but don’t like them either. They are just downright boring. I know building muscle is good, and I so hate being the weakling on occasion, like when I have to get my hubby to help me start the dreaded lawnmower at the beginning of the spring season.
I agree. As I said earlier in the comments, there’s a big difference between just thinking, “This is hard.” and knowing, “This is harmful.” For me, it was when I realized the latter that I came to appreciate that running wasn’t for me.
I was always that slow girl in PE class too. And as much as I’ve always loved aerobics classes, I really thought I HATED running for years. And then about two years ago, I made myself start running. It seemed like the appropriate next level since my workouts were becoming pretty stagnant. Plus, I physically couldn’t run more than one minute without gasping for air, and that pissed me off. I hate not being able to do something.
After very slowly training myself to run longer and longer each time, I’m finally up to 30 minutes straight with no walking. And that’s a big deal for me. More importantly, I finally started achieving the runner’s high that everyone was always talking about. So now I LOVE running! But I don’t run fast, nor do I really care much about making good time. Finished my first 5K in November in 40 minutes, right after an old man who was probably about 60. Ha!! Still meant a great deal to me though.
But you’re totally right! You have to do what you love to do!
It sounds to me like you are running for the right reason. Good for you! And maybe you’ll catch that guy next time.
I LOVE this post, Mama Pea. I definitely struggle with doing a number of things (running included), because I think I SHOULD but not because I love them or because they bring me joy. Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how I do various things in my life in order to be a person that I’m not, which leaves me feeling pretty drained and unhappy. I work 40 hours/week and commute two hours/day. I don’t have that much time to throw around, so I’d really like my time away from work to be restful and joyful and meaningful to me – doing things that I love and not things I think I should love. I experience a lot of hip, knee, and back pain following a run (and I only run a couple miles!), so it doesn’t even feel very healthy or empowering to me… but it seems like people hear that as an excuse for me to be a couch potato (it’s not!). I’m thinking it’s time for me to focus on other healthy activities that I enjoy more!
I hope you do, Janelle. As I said on Facebook the other day, my favorite scripture is “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” But that doesn’t mean we HAVE to do all things. It speaks to capability, not obligation. Life is a gift meant to be enjoyed!
Thanks! Unfortunately, I spent a long time believing that God didn’t want me to enjoy life, but, rather, that I should be punished for all of my imperfections. It’s good to remember that: 1) In life, there will be trials. I don’t need to work at making things more difficult for myself. 2) God is love and wants me to enjoy the life I’ve been given. God is gracious with me, so I should give myself a little grace as well!
Amen. God loves us in spite of those imperfections, He doesn’t punish us for them! I hope you are able to not be so hard on yourself. You are loved!
Thank you so much for writing this. After I started reading healthy living blogs I got this feeling like I needed to be a runner. Yet every time I went to run I dreaded the idea of even putting my shoes on. About a year ago I realized I enjoy doing group fitness, HIIT and crossfit. And when I enjoyed it I looked forward to exercising. I took away from this that the best kind of exercise is the kind you love.
I’m dying to try Crossfit…yet, I’m terrified too.
You should try an intro class. I’m fortunate that my cousin is a crossfit trainer and gives me workouts to do at home but you can find workouts online as well. My workouts are usually comprised of strength and then almost like a HIIT. I love it! The workouts are short but get your heart rate up. I have never felt stronger and more fit.
Judging from how you describe your ideal workout, I think you will really enjoy Crossfit.
Couldn’t agree more! I injured my knee after pushing too hard on a running agenda two or three years ago, and haven’t been the same since. I wish I’d just stuck to what I love and what my body could handle! I still wish I could run, sometimes, because it’s what is easiest – no fees, no equipment, no memberships required – but your message is right on: It’s better to listen to your body and stick with what works for you.
What a wonderful post! Many of us need the reminder that we don’t always *have* to do something just because we *could*. Whether it is running, or (in my case) getting a Ph.D. There is more to life than just accumulating accomplishments. All I have to do is look at my dog lazing in the sun and waggling with joy when he greets a loved one to remember that.
If you have any insight into how to make a runner/cardio-lover love lifting, I’d love to know them! I’m the opposite of you… give me a few hours to zone out and run or even an excuse to watch tv at the gym on the treadmill or elliptical and it always makes me happy, but when it comes to lifting, I pout and cannot motivate no matter what. I never know if my form is right (and where I live, unless you want to spend over 100 bucks, a trainer isn’t an option) and worry about what the best way to lift is. Most importantly, its not fun.
The problem is, I KNOW lifting is good for me. I’m aware of the benefits and while it doesn’t destress me like cardio, its clearly good for my health in the long run. I wish everything that was good for me was something I loved to do (um, flossing?) but sometimes I need to force myself to make things habit…
Also, insights for the love of lifting would be really appreciated!!
I’d check out bodybuilding.com and the New Rules of Lifting for Women. Study the form through their examples and then practice with no weight or just the bar. Once you learn the technique, it’s easier and easier to get excited when you see your increases in strength. I like to listen to music or podcasts and really just focus on form and increasing my weight.
You know I love it.
I became a much happier person when I retired the old running shoes, and you’re so right, if you love it, then go for it, but I no longer loved it. Now, I just enjoy playing outside, my long walks or hikes and yoga, and my body and mind are both grateful.
And I am grateful to you for the strong example you set for me!
Wow, You know that feeling when the message on Sunday morning totally has your name on it and you feel like someone is preaching directly to you?
Yeah, I just had that.
Ha ha! Can I get an amen?
Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. I’ve been trying for a year to make myself NOT hate running. Obviously, it hasn’t worked. While my friends run like little hamsters on their treadmills, I feel crummy for lifting weights and logging just a few miles before going home and getting in my kitchen (where I’m REALLY happy).
No. More. Guilt.
Guilt is such a crappy emotion. Eloquent, huh? It’s a waste though! Channel that energy somewhere else!
As a runner, I find this post extremely refreshing. I can’t tell you how many blog posts I’ve read about “Why I love running” that now make me want to vomit.
You know that hatred you described for running? That’s what I have for weight lifting. I hate it. Hate it hate it hate it. But I make myself do it because it is good for me. I’ve tried all different forms of resistance training (free weights, machines, bands, balls, bodyweight, circuit classes…). I don’t love any of them. But does that mean I should stop trying to build my strength? That doesn’t seem right, either. Do I continue just “sucking it up” for the sake of my health?
I’m sure you’ve tried yoga? You could try coming over and hauling my kids/groceries/backpack/lunchboxes from the car? We’re fun.
Great post and it is awesome how it is spoken to so many of your readers. When you can take a step back and look at it objectively, it is strange what we “force” ourselves to do when there are so many other options out there.
Funny…last summer I would do a brisk 2 mile walk after work, every single day and LOVED every minute of it. It was so nice to have some fresh air and listen to a podcast after being stuck in an office all day and in a car for 1+ hour driving home (listening to traffic every 8 minutes!). This year I’ve been forcing myself to run and not enjoying it at all. I do vigorous exercise before work…I shouldn’t punish myself after work!
Thanks for putting it into perspective.
I say go back to your walks! Podcasts are awesome.
I love this post. I am going through exactly this but about triathlons. I am going through the process of trying to find out if I want to start training again for them this summer. I discovered yoga this winter and became hooked. Weights, quick interval workouts, yoga … I love it all. Training for hours and hours a week doing cardio – not so much anymore. Thanks for sharing
I think you just answered your question…
love this! But, unfortunately, I DO love running. Actually, I love RACING! And I’ve yet to find another sport that I can pick people off, one by one, in.
There’s no “unfortunately.” If you love it, rock on! I’ll even hold a sign for you.
I am so happy to read this and am bookmarking it for the next time I find myself trying to explain this concept to someone.
I turned 30 in early 2010 and decided that I wanted to try running a 5K that year. I did it in May and really, really enjoyed running. Then I signed up to do a half in May 2011 and found that when I *had* to run, it wasn’t nearly as much fun. I started mixing in other forms of exercise and started to look forward to workouts again. I signed up for the half again this year but recently decided that I’m done with long races for a while after this because following the plan just isn’t fun anymore. I’m much more motivated to go to a boot camp or yoga class, go for a walk with the dog, etc. because I *want* to, not because my training plan says to do it.
I love this post so much I linked it on Facebook.
As a person who does love running, it frustrates me that races are now full of people who just want the bling and to check something off their bucket list. For example, I would never even consider entering a weight lifting competition just to say I did one.
Everyone needs to find what they love and do that. No forcing of other things. We are not all meant to be carbon copies of each other!
I am glad I haven’t offended you die-hards! I admire you and know that it takes a lot of sacrifice and hard work. But it’s just not something I need to, want to or even can do. And that’s okay! Thanks for the support!
I really enjoyed this post! I started running 2 yrs ago after going through a major health crisis. I felt like Forest Gump. It just felt so good and powerful to get out and just run without a destination. It helped me deal with the anger and frustration of being so ill and weak for a couple of years due to a doctor’s mistake. It helped get me through a lot and regain some of my sense of power and accomplishment again. This past fall, I lost that feeling and drive to run everyday. I felt guilty and like something was wrong with me, but I think our bodies and lives change and what works at one point in your life, might not at another point. I think there is too much pressure to look like a size 00 and girls are being bombarded with it (ie Pinterest). After going through a major health crisis, I am thankful to be mobile and enjoy my family and my life. Staying active is so important, I love Pilates and other forms of exercise with my family. But does it really matter how many races we’ve run or what size jeans we wear? There’s so much more to life…
Thanks for opening this up for conversation!
I couldn’t agree with you more about Pinterest. I went through and purged my “fitness” board just today of all the images that I felt weren’t accentuating strength and were glorifying the unattainable/undesirable. I encourage all women to do the same. We are in this together!
AMEN to weights! I just started weight training about 2 months ago and have never ever felt /looked better. Running was making me mental and once I cut that out I started to feel so so so much better.
Thank you for the post!! Finally a blogger that isn’t addicted to cardio!
Ok this is amazing. I feel the exact same way, running has NEVER been something I’ve enjoyed or been good at. Also thank you for sharing that article. I have always had a hunch that what he was saying was true, and I’m glad that other people agree.
Thank you for this!!! I’ve been trying to make myself a runner for all the wrong reasons and I absolutely hate it. Whew. I feel much better acknowledging that if I hate it, then I shouldn’t do it. Life’s too shirt, right?
Did you mean to say life’s too shirt? Because that’s kind of funny.
I didn’t read all the comments so I apologize if I’m repeating…I’m a runner, and I love it. Your post has opened my eyes to stop trying to make everyone else a runner too. It’s not for everyone. Thanks.
No one has said that! I’m glad you weren’t offended and I appreciate your response.
Awesome post, Mama Pea. You talk a lot of sense–sometimes we need to re-evaluate why exactly we’re pursuing a particular fitness goal. All too often it’s for something superficial (e.g., free shirts–I’m so guilty of that one) and not just for the fun of it!
Rock on.
Love this MamaPea!Thanks!
Couldnt have said it better myself!
Loving crossfit, yoga and walking with my pups these days!
Tell me more about Crossfit! I want to try it but am a little bit (okay, a lotta bit) scared.
No need to be scared – sounds similar to what you’ve been doing! Much more fun than running for a couple hours that’s for sure:) Google “sample cross fit workouts” and you will find tons – even ones that you can do with no equipment necessary (re: burpees, pushups, jump squats, etc) – tons of variations – aimingfor a number of reps, aiming for a number of intervals, tabata drills, intervals. You’ll be hooked!
Good luck!!
K.
Hi MamaPea! Long-time reader, first-time commenter.
Thanks for this post, and the article you linked to as well. I have become an active exerciser over the past two years or so, and at one point, completed a half marathon (very slowly). It seemed like the “thing to do,” and because I was comfortably running around 8k, I figured, why not up it to the 21k? After running the half, I was sick on and off for about three months, though I was proud to have finished.
I shouldn’t need to be told, but it is nice to hear someone say, “It’s ok. You don’t have to be a runner to be fit and healthy.” When I do run–between 1-3 times a week–I enjoy it, and that is great news for me. But it is great to be reminded that all the other things I do are great too. Especially riding my bike at a leisurely pace for around 45 minutes, or high intensity boxing classes.
So, thanks! And by the way, your cookbook is the bomb, and we especially love your bean burger recipes! Nomnomnom!
Kind regards,
Lisa
Thank you, Lisa! There are several new bean burgers in the new book!
Mama Pea, thanks for the words of encouragement! I truly have spent more time beating myself over not just not running, but not exercising enough. I have suffered for years with fibromyalgia– very painful stuff. Some days I exercise, some I don’t. I try not to let myself be put into any type of labels. I know I am overweight, I know I don’t exercise enough, I do what I can, and that is that. On a more positive note, I recently (as in the last week), returned to work part-time. I’ve been mom and home maker for 21 years.A year ago, I could not have even done that. I am not dependent on pain medications, as a matter of fact I now take very little medication. I have learned to let my food be my medicine. Thank you for the reminder to celebrate who I am and what I CAN do instead of focusing on what I can’t do.
BTW– my sour dough flopped last week, but probably because I didn’t give it the attention needed due to the going back to work thing. I can’t wait to try again on my day off.
Congrats on your new job! I am so glad you are feeling well enough to be back to work and not on a lot of meds. You should be very proud! I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you on that starter.
Great post, my sentiments exactly!
Great post. I actually do love running but not every day and not 13 miles at a time. Yoga is definitely a good time too.
This post reminded me of some things.
I remember how my best friend and I walking around and around that school track you mentioned, twice a day at recess for the last two years of elementary school. And as I recall, there was an unwritten rule that the girls and the boys walked in opposite directions. (I think the boys went clockwise, but I’m not positive now).
The track is a fond memory for me, and now I’m nostalgic, even if it was overall a stressful time in my own life. Alas, preteens can be mean. (For example, when kids called your brother “Fast Eddie,” I’m pretty sure it wasn’t meant to be complimentary.)
I don’t run very much, because it’s hard on my feet. However, I found out (or rather, learned from Mr. Mauze in Health II) that hiking uphill and a good pace is just as good exercise. And I love doing that, even if I don’t have as much time for it as I’d like.
Hi, Brett. Nice to hear from you again. And yes, kids can be cruel. I definitely caught my share of that, but I know you did too. Glad to see we’ve both climbed above. I haven’t been back, but I bet that track would seem very small now.
I want to be a fit runner, but I dislike running. It is hard for me, very hard. This helps a great deal as I was going to try to work in a regular running routine into my life. This has been very disconcerting since my son is a fantastic runner at 11. I don’t know what I was thinking that I could ever keep up with him and his 5 1/2 minute miles, but I wanted it to be something we shared. Now, I see, how ridiculous the whole idea is on so many levels. Thanks once again, Mama Pea!
You are very welcome. Gigi brought home a pamphlet for a “fun run” today. I said, “Do you want to do this?” in a very no pressure, but not discouraging tone. She said, “Nahhhh…” And so into the recycle bin it went and we went outside to jump rope.
I must say that running is hard for me … I am very hard with myself always wanting to improve, always looking at the pace … I have to work on that …
I do have to tell you that I feel a great sense of accomplishment when I run, just because it is that hard, at least for me. I started Yoga many moons ago and I really think running is having that effect on people … you need to run so that you can say that you run … instead of actually doing it because you want to or you love it …
I will always love yoga … but in a sense it comes easy to me … I feel at peace and I feel great comfort in it … however I would love to continue to run because is feel so good that my body can actually run for 2 hours … but that is all I really want to do … no marathons in my future … just half marathons and 5Ks in my future …
I love running, but I’ve drastically reduced it over the years, and now I only run 3 short runs per week, sometimes two. Currently I am doing no cardio because I am in Phase 1 of LiveFit, and whereas it would have driven me mad even a year or two ago, I am loving it. Reducing cardio even before LiveFit has been the best thing I’ve ever done for my body composition. I have been lifting weights since I was in my early teen years, and yet this is the first time in my life that I have put on substantial muscle. Yes, I was always lifting moderate to heavy weights. But this is the first time I have cut back on cardio and (gasp!) I didn’t get fat!
Great post, Mama Pea!
Way to be brave! Isn’t it nice?
I do not enjoy running much either, and I’m happy with my routine now, where I incorporate cardio through Body Attack classes at the gym, and some Yoga and Pilates! That way I can actually “look forward” to going to these classes
I agree 100%! I have always hated running. The only time I find it remotely enjoyable is if I’m running a 5K, and that’s for the race event mentality. Not the activity itself. I too have been reading a lot of Mark Sisson’s ideas on fitness lately and I totally agree. I’ve been living weights more over the past few weeks and it’s becoming more and more fun now that I kinda sorta somewhat know what I’m doing and am less intimidated by it! I also teach Zumba twice a week (moderately-high intensity, depending on my energy), and I attend one other Zumba class (high intensity). It’s the most cardio I’ll do in a week. Ideally, I’m working to also fit a day of yoga and a day of pilates in there.
Sounds like a great mix of activity! Mark is a pretty smart guy, huh? I find his blog fascinating and very well-written.
It’s funny that you brought this up–I was that kid too. I had a teacher in 1st grade (FIRST GRADE!!!) who asked why I couldn’t run a mile like my aunt who went to Olympic trials…twice. Why would I EVER think I could run? So year after year I came in last while running the mile. And I turned 25 without ever running a whole mile. Because “Why can’t I run like my aunt?” So I decided to run. Me and my couch to 5k met for 9 weeks. And I ran a mile. Then two…then three. I have run up to 5 miles. And every time I finish I mile I send a virtual shall we say “salute” to my teacher. I run on and off. I am just starting again after not running for a year. As a matter of fact I just got home from my run. I love to run. I am in a better mood when I do…I am a better mom…I am a better wife…things are just better for me. I run because I am so proud of what I accomplish every time I run 1/4 a mile, 1/2 a mile, 1 mile…whatever. It is such a great accomplishment for me…and I am so happy I have found something that I love to do. And being proud gets me out…which in turn gives me energy to chase my little Ada…or to take her on walks…or to go on a bike ride. Like you said…you do what you love
And man…I am so jealous you love to lift weights 
Thanks! More room on the sidewalks for me and my jelly beans
AMEN! Me and running will never be friends.
I absolutely LOVE this post, even though I do enjoy running. I wish more people would realize that they hate running and rather do something else instead. Something they enjoy.
Glad you have made this change!
I have never been and will never be a runner. To me, running really does suck. I had no idea that people run for all of those reasons that you listed. So for many people, it’s just another form of an eating disorder? Very complicated, huh? Thanks for this great post.
exactly a year ago i ran my first and only half marathon. after that race and crossing the finish line, the first thing i said to my boyfriend was “finally, i can just lift weights now!” and that was the last long run i ever did.
running isn’t for me, and i was stuck in this dark hole where i thought i had to run X amount of miles a week and so on. it was enjoyable for me at times, but towards the end, i knew it wasn’t for me anymore. the mental challenge was worse than the physical challenge.
i’m glad i freed myself of those chains though. i truly admire runners and what they can achieve, but everyone is different and finding what works for you is most important !
its amazing how much more responsive my body is to lifting weights instead, with only SOME cardio thrown in – a HIIT run once a week, and some incline walking. jump roping and plyo moves are my new cardio , plus they keep the workout fun and interesting
And not to be creepy, but I think weights have done amazing things to your physique! Well done!
Oh, I’m SO GLAD THAT I READ THIS! I hate running. Hate. But I ran cross country and track and trained for a half too (decided not to run it after all). I hate that running is always recommended as a complement to an already-heavy cardio workout regimen. You know what I DO love? Skating. And I do, 3-4 times a week. I could probably roller skate a marathon, if given the chance. But running? No. Why would I need MORE cardio?!
PS: I hate running. And thanks for this motivation.
So true! I used to hate running, and I was bad at it. I finally quit for a few years. I’ve recently gotten back into it, and I love it. I expect to go through love/hate periods, but when I hate it, I’m just.not.doing.it.
I love your personal posts. They make me feel not crazy, haha. I also hate running. I still feel like I should though (my reasons are not those listed above… zombie apocalypse anyone?) and find myself jealous that a friend just finished a half marathon. I suppose now I should rethink my exercise routine. And hope I don’t have to run from the zombies.
Thanks, Sarah. I always get nervous to open myself up a bit.
Wonderful post Mama Pea! I just signed up for my first half marathon and I am feeling very excited but also dreading the training. I’ve only done 5 & 10k’s before and running a half and/or full marathon is one of those things that I just want to accomplish in life. I don’t inherently love running but love the feeling after accomplishing a race. I am glad I finally signed up for a half but reading your post reminds me to not put extra pressure on myself and do workouts that I enjoy because I enjoy them, not because everyone else is doing it.
I love Mark Sisson’s Primal Blueprint Fitness. I’ve been doing it for the past couple of months and really feel like I’m in as good of shape as I was when I was doing chronic cardio. The only part I haven’t done yet is the pull-ups. I really need to get on that. I have the bar, just haven’t used it yet.
I’ve been doing assisted pullups at the gym and they get easier and easier. Do you think it’s worth buying the book? I don’t have it.
Primal Blueprint Fitness is a free ebook! All you have to do is sign up for his newsletter. http://www.marksdailyapple.com/primal-blueprint-fitness/#axzz1r6CdobHf
Oh great, thanks!
Also, I wanted to share this with you (read your reply below about soy and gluten causing you problems), I’ve been following their program and it’s really helping me to improve my health. It’s paleo, so it does include meat, but they have a lot of information about how grains and different foods cause inflammation and have a negative impact on our health. http://whole9life.com/resources/
These are some of my favorite blog posts that they’ve published:
http://whole9life.com/2011/09/whole9-health-equation/
http://whole9life.com/2011/11/stress-addiction-1/
http://whole9life.com/2011/11/stress-addiction-2/
Thanks, Suzanne. I’ve been soaking my grains, which seems to have helped a bit with regard to gluten. I will definitely check out the links you’ve provided!
I totally agree! I actually wrote a similar post a few weeks ago and got a few emails slamming me for it. But really, what’s the point in running if you hate it? I run, and by run I run a lot for a long time and very far, but I truly love it. I love the challenge and competing and pretty much everything about it. But you made such a good point. There’s no use wasting your time on doing something you don’t like because everyone else is doing it!
Stick with Pilates, and do it at least 3 times a week. If possible, do the work on the equipment too.
There is a great quote by Joseph Pilates about the benefits of the method.
Being a certified trainer, I had to try it out for myself, doing the Classical method on the Reformer 3 days a week, and the results were awesome!
Just looking at you new app. You wrote you enjoy running?! I have a love hate relationship with it too. Love a good butt. Hate running. Anyway thought you might want to update you app. Good job!
I LOVE this post. In the past I was one of those people who wished I could run for the wrong reasons. After I tried it I realized I loved it but my body didn’t. Even though my form was correct and I thought I was being careful, a wrong step threw my back out. I no longer try to force my body to run, but I’m still looking for a form of exercise that gives me that “high”. Walking around Europe certainly did the trick, but that’s not a daily workout I have access to.. =)
Thanks for the inspirational post!
AMEN. I HATE running too. Can’t do it. I’m just going to focus on lifting weights and doing sprints. I prefer it way more than running for miles.
Thank you so much for writing this!! I play soccer and used to run the 400m in college, but put me on a treadmill or make me run outside and I can do about 20 minutes before I want to jump out of my skin and scream out of boredom. Recently, I have gotten into spinning and yoga, they are my new exercise love! I feel so guilty that I am not a “runner” training for this 5k or that half marathon, but you are right we don’t need to all be runners. I may need to tap into my sprinting past though this summer. Again, thank you for sharing your story, it is very comforting!!
Fully agreed!!! Loved this post and was excited to see the comments when i saw you had over 300
I happen to love to run–but probably overdid it in my life and only can a little now. I love your cross training ideas and ways of being active. There is life after running…and truthfully it is often MUCH more interesting and fun!
Ha. There are some days I reeeeallly wished I hated running. But my body and mind loves it so much. More so my mind haha. It is truly the only form of exercise that gives me real stress relief. My boyfriends ridiculously athletic and the longest distance he will run with me is 6 miles. And that is like ‘whatever’ not painful just boing to him. SIX miles! I hate him for that (of of course) but seriously, he hates it so he doesn’t run even though it is easy for him. It is more challenging for me but I love it. It had taught me mental discipline and it has taught me that I am stronger than I ever thought it was. Dorky? Maybe haha but so, so true.
I skimmed the comments and it seems that people really focused on the “do what you love” part of the post – which is great, but I wonder how many people actually read the article. It states that we are actually damaging our bodies with the steady state cardio. I’ve been reading a lot of paleo/primal things lately and have noticed them slipping into your blog (this post, the caveman cookies, sourdough, raw cheese) and wondered about it and what that means to a vegan lifestyle. I love your blog and book so this is not negative just an observation and a question. Thanks for everything you do Mama Pea!
That’s a keen observation, Abby. I actually have been reading a lot of things about traditional foods and nutrition as well. Some less traditional foods (i.e. soy and gluten) have been wreaking havoc on me lately, so I’m trying to incorporate other foods when I can and I’m feeling a lot better. We always can learn from others in all walks of life, as far as I’m concerned, and as was the tone of this post, if something isn’t working for me (i.e. soy!), I’m not afraid to admit it. I really do think making what I can at home that isn’t processed is a great gift for myself and my family. So there’s a lot of fermenting, bread baking and raw foods of all sorts up in here!
I disagree about running to become a better person. It can and does.
It boosts confidence, makes you more chill, and obviously relieves stress. I am a different person when I am running consistently. When I’m not running, I become less motivated in many aspects of my life. I don’t run for times, races, or weight loss. Running is my therapy. So, I think running is a fantastic reason to become a better you.
I’m happy it’s worked for you!
Oh, Mama Pea, now why’d you have to go and say all that? Whatever floats your boat, though, running IS for me!
At least for now.
YES. finally someone admitting how much running sucks, haha. In all seriousness, though. I tried to force myself love running. For awhile, I liked it–I like the accomplishment you feel of setting a goal and completing it, but realized one day after running 5 miles during a half marathon training—I f*cking hate this shit!!! I cannot state it any other way. No much how much I tried to convince myself, I knew running was just not for me.
Now? I do CrossFit. Running alone made me soft and WEAK. CrossFit makes me strong, powerful. I get so much more out of running 200 meters carrying a 35lb plate overhead than running 5 monotonous miles. And back squatting 100lbs, or having perfect form with power cleans. I finally found what I do love, and includes a bit of running–but seriously, the running still sucks. lol.
I love your humor in your stories. I’m just the opposite, I hate weights. I recently stopped weight training after doing it 3 days a week for the past 5 years or so and now stick to running and yoga only. Much happier!
this is a great post. i don’t hate running but i don’t love it as much as i love bootcamp and yoga! i do run to get my cardio in but so true, you don’t need to log in 30-40 miles per week to get that cardio going! i run 2-3x per week, 3 bootcamps (with heavy weights) and 1 yoga… it’s perfect. and i have to say that bootcamp has made my running stronger!
Thanks for this post. I’ve been beating myself up for the last year b/c I haven’t wanted to run. I competed in track in field for almost 10 years as a sprinter and tried out longer distance running after I had kids. I did it basically to lose baby weight and pressure from friends that it was the only way to be really fit. A couple of years ago I ran a 12k race and it was so miserable! I didn’t enjoy any of it. I’ve stopped running regularly and have been feeling so guilty. I was so grateful to read this b/c I realized I’m not alone in this. My goal is to stay active and healthy, but that doesn’t mean the only way to do it is running.
Try yoga!!!! it is wonderful exercise and will help you get rid of all forms of guilt and feel happy, healthy, joyful, peaceful, erergized and happy. Xo
Thank you thank you thank you!
After two years of forcing myself to do endless amounts of strenuos cardio, I have come to many of the same conclusions! I also forced myself to become a runner, and although I was very proud of my accomplishments, I had no passion for it. I have since quit, and now I only run when I get the urge to, i.e., on really beautiful sunny days that aren’t too hot or too cold. I’ve moved on to being active in enjoyable ways, mainly doing Zumba and rock climbing. I feel like the writers of most health/fitness blogs are runners and I always feel like a little bit of a failure because I’m not a “runner”.
You are not a failure! I’m glad reading this has helped you appreciate that. Rock climbing would be a trip! (and so would Zumba, but quite literally for me…)
It’s funny (haha) that you say you hate running. I hate running too, well, i use to. I don’t necessarily “like” it but i do like that i’ve lost some weight, that i’m exercising, i’m with my husband and my children are involved. But i DO like the goodies from the events!!! We’ve only ran 5K’s and really dont care to run any farther. I guess when you’re nearly 40 you realize “somethings gotta give” and my weight was it. (And it is fun to get new shoes!!!)
I love to keep moving, especially trail running with my dogs and yoga. I hate competition and don’t train “for” anything. I go at my own pace and love being able to run. You had some pretty bad reasons for running, I’m glad you stopped, since you didn’t enjoy it.
I agree with you 1000% – I used to hate running. I didn’t understand it…I thought people who ran were crazy. BUT then I started running and found out I loved it. I just completed my 1st half marathon and cant wait to do it again. I live by the motto of “life is way too short not to be happy” – so when running makes me unhappy, I’ll move on.
P.S. wait…you mean I shouldn’t be running just so I can eat skittles at mile 5 and 10 and drink champagne when I’ve hit a new time goal??? oh darn….
xoxo from Trinidad
hallelujah I’m not alone…I tried to convince myself for so long that I would like running if I just stuck with it and got fit enough. Truth is that never happened. I much prefer shorter more intense cardio like spinning, sprints or running up the stairs. And weight training has become my main love…and like you said…stick to what you love!
This is a great post! I have been a fair-weather, when-I-feel-like-it runner since high school but the bug bit me hard during the summer of 2009. I found I could suddenly run farther and harder than I could before and it was totally motivating. To me, running has always been about being outside, working my body hard, praying, and spending time alone. I often process my life circumstances and come up with great solutions to problems on a long run. I’ve finished 3 half marathons in the past year and a half, and I’m just starting to train for my first marathon. The feeling of triumph when I cross the finish line (or even just knowing I’ve worked my butt off during training) is irreplaceable for me. I don’t love it all the time (who does) but I love the results- in my body, my head, and my heart. That said, you’re totally right that it’s not for everyone! I battle sometimes with whether I’m running for the right reasons- it’s so trendy! But I think that I am!
Hi Sarah …
AGAIN you speak to me! I already think our curly hair and sense of humor are so alike (and being mom to two girls) … but it seems our choice in fitness is so alike as well!
I, too, absolutely hate running … anytime I have done it I am constantly hearing “I hate this I hate this I hate this … is it over yet?” in my head. ugh.
I finally gave up that attempt to force myself to like it many moons ago. Now … daily yoga is my thing. I like to say it keeps me sane! I like it so much that I am pursuing yoga teacher training in June (not to teach ultimately but to deepen my own knowledge)
P.S. Update on the curly hair … I have been rolling with curls since I read your post … took more research beyond what you posted for my specific coarse hair type but I have been pleased with it. Tho I can’t wash and go like you can … I tend to look like a wet dog … so a little more work but my hair is loving it! Thanks for the Hairspiration!
This article actually made me unhappy. You have to realize that just because you don’t enjoy running doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. If everyone had the attitude that you have approaching running then no one would ever do anything. I hated running at first, but I stuck with it and ran through the pain and now I love it. Point is that we have to build ourselves a respect to love things like running or working out before we can truly enjoy it.
You are definitely entitled to your opinion. Sorry to bum you out. But “you have to realize that” you could write a blog post on your own blog about why you like running.
This was an excellent post! But what if you dread running, like completely dread it, but feel amazing every time you do? Does that mean you love it or hate it? Because I can’t figure it out!
I know I’m late on replying to this, but I just wanted to say that I love this post…I’m currently training for my first half marathon and honestly starting to question the reasons I’m doing this. I’m going to work hard and do the race at the end of May, but after that I”m going to take a serious break from running, make other choices for my workouts, and see if I truly miss running or if I just did it because (like you said) it’s supposedly “the thing to do.”
Good for you! I hope the rest of your training goes great & that you have a great race.
No one honestly enjoys the actual running, its how you feel after the run that continues to get me out the door.
Nice article. I agree with you. I detest running, but I enjoy the idea of the challenge. I honestly can not understand how someone could enjoy logging mile after mile, but I am so thankful that I am able to.
I enjoyed your post and went to Mark Sisson’s blog to read his. Then I got lost in his site for about an hour.
He makes some interesting points, but being plant based for so long, I just can’t get on board with his food suggestions. Just wondered what you thought about that? Plant based does tend to lend us toward more carbs and especially beans/legumes. I worry about giving up my cardio if I’m not willing to give up my carbs and beans!
hello
i was actually searching to know how to do something i don’t like. i always thought i have to do it whether i like it or not. but now after reading this i’m thinking about a new perspective to look at what i do!!!!!!!
it was a good article and i loved it. good honesty btw
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I’m alittle late reading this, but this is a great post! I love running outside, but now that it is winter here in the northeast I am stuck in the gym on the treadmill and hate it! I am so happy that I came across your post last night and reminded that I don’t need to run 5 days a week for 4-5 miles to stay in shape. Walking, biking, and most importantly weight lifting offer variety and still keep me in shape. Merry christmas Mama Pea!
I LOVE running. I honestly do think it makes me a better person. I have more energy and am easier to get along with( huge bonus!!!!) I run with my dog also. She loves it as much as I do if not more. We have to be the fittest dog and person in town( lol)