Career Day
Today I went and talked to 100 first and second graders about this wacky thing I do everyday that some people would call work.
Gigi doesn’t. And neither do some radio hosts (this, my friends, is foreshadowing).
When Gigi came home the first week of school with a handout asking if any parents would be willing to come talk about their jobs, she immediately said, “Do you think Dad would do this?”
Of course I only had Pea Daddy’s dislike of public speaking in mind when I said, “Sure, but you know I kind of have a job too.”
She was floored. I really need to work with her on keeping her shoelaces tied.
Once I helped her up, I explained that writing our book and running this site is a job–a job I love, that allows me to stay home with my children, that provides what I think is value to others and that I am so happy doing.
Then I asked, “But do you still want me to ask Dad if he’ll do it?”
“Nah,” she said, “Your job is more interesting.”
So today we went off to Career Day.
When I arrived, Gigi’s teacher said that I was going to talk for awhile and that the class should wait to ask questions until the end. She then explained that questions were things that had answers, not just raising your hand to tell a story.
(Again, foreshadowing.)
I felt out my audience before I started.
Most of the kids like to eat.
Even more of them like to write stories. (Writing better than eating? Never!)
Many of them like to take pictures with their mom and dad’s cameras.
And even a dozen or so are vegetarian.
But no one likes tofu.
Still, they all listened relatively quietly while I talked about how much I liked to read when I was their age, how much I liked telling funny stories, how much I dreamed of being a journalist and how unfunny writing news is.
(At this point, I learned that sometimes there are stories on the news about forest fires in Southern Oregon and that those stories are not funny. I also learned that this is not a question.)
They sat relatively still as I talked about trying being a lawyer (because I like to argue too), becoming a mom and wanting to stay home to take care of Gigi and Lulu, but still wanting to write stories. I talked about wanting to feed my girls healthy food, making up recipes and wanting to share those recipes with other families.
(At this point, I was asked if Gigi likes swimming. I assured the kids that she does. We all learned that this was a question, but not an appropriate one.)
Then I asked the kids what some of their favorite foods were, and they answered things like “noodles,” “pizza” and “enchiladas.” They had fun seeing recipes for these foods in the book and how they could be made healthier and without meat. I gave them each little mini-cookbooks to take home with them and then opened it up for questions.
They did not disappoint.
“Do you ever make Hamburger Helper?”
“Does Gigi like meatball pizza?”
“Where can I buy your book?” (I hope Gigi marries this kid. Or at least chases him at recess.)
“You said Gigi likes to swim and I like to swim and actually I’m in swim lessons right now!”
Lest you be confused, this is not a question.
I answered their questions and left the classroom with a little spring in my step as the kids yelled, “Goodbye Mrs. Gigi’s Mom!”
Funny enough, a radio host asked me yesterday morning what kind of woman I am to leave my legal career, “waste” my law school education and write recipes for a living. She asked again, “What kind of example is that to your girls?”
After I picked myself up off the floor, I answered, “One I am quite proud of.”
And there’s no question about that.
How great that there are so many veg kids in Gigi’s class!! Love that. Sounds like career day was a hit
I can’t BELIEVE that radio host asked you that– what on earth?
I think her shtick is to say controversial things, but really?!
That was a really mean comment. I think I would have involuntarily hung up on her. You did a good job with your comment. I personally think you are an inspiration. Being a mom is WAY better than any old law degree.
I listened to the whole interview, she was looking for ways to rile you up the whole time. Glad you didn’t take the bait, you’re too classy for that.
Thanks, Kristy.
You are absolutely amazing and an inspiration to us all!
Thanks, Ann.
Sarah I really respect you. I’m in school right now for business and looking to go on for my MBA when I graduate, but when I think about my future and having a family, I see myself wanting to stay home to take care of them and raise them right. I’m not even in the situation yet to have to make a decision and I am already so conflicted about what is the best way for me to do it. I think that is something so many women struggle with, the pull between a career and a family. I think you found an excellent way to do both and be damn good at them. You should never be judged for that.
Thanks, Erin. I really do think every mom struggles with the decision between work and family, heck, every parent for that matter. And no matter which path you choose, you’ll always second guess yourself. But we all do the best we can, and no other parent, no other person, has the right to judge someone else for the decision that is right for your family.
What an inspiration you are, MamaPea!
The kids sound too cute. You should be more than proud of everything you have done and that radio host clearly did not learn his manners when he was a kid…maybe he should’ve gone back to second grade with you today!
Even more shocking–it was a woman!
Shame on me for assuming! Yet–somehow it makes it seem worse?
it honestly doesn’t surprise me that it was a woman…
Great post and what you do does matter to me! As a stay at home mom I say “you tell em sister!”, kick butt and take names and definitely be proud!
Thanks, Kel. I hope you enjoy being home with your kids as much as I do.
Defnitely do! I’m a lucky mom!
That is wonderful that you were able to talk to Gigi’s class! I love that you gave out mini cookbooks
I teach K-12 and have found that especially my elementary students, never disappoint to ask or say something that leaves me smiling!
They actually had some really great ideas for recipes too! I can’t wait to put them into action.
Some people confuse what might be their best choices with everyone else’s best choices… glad to see that you can stand up for your own!
Very well said. That goes for me too…what’s best for me might not be best for someone else either. But there should at least be a level of respect.
Are you serious with that radio question!? Nice response! I would probably still be trying to figure out some witty response to that.
It was lengthier…both the interview and the response, and believe me, I’ve replayed what I could have said in my head about a million times.
Hahaha! Funny post. What a rude host, hello don’t they see the awesomeness you’re bringing to the world now?!? (note that this is a question but not one that needs to be answered.)
That is awesome that you handed those recipe cards out, I bet their parents were very thankful! Which recipes did you have in there?
I cant believe a host asked you that. Was it at the end of the interview? How could you stand to stomach any of their other questions after such a rude question? And good for you for the rockin’ answer.
Hmm…the cards had the picnic pinwheels, the banana choc. chip millet muffins, and honestly, I can’t remember what else. But it’s a nice little sampler.
I love that the students asked more appropriate questions than the radio host
I was shocked at how on-point most of them were. They also asked if I take all my pictures and where my office is. I’m still looking for a good answer to that last one.
I was thinking you might be able to say, “In Kitchens EVERYWHERE!!!” but maybe that’s a little scary.
I can’t believe a radio host would say something like that! How rude.
I think your girls will be extra proud that you didn’t stay in a job you didn’t love, and instead do something that makes both your lives’ and other people’s lives better. 
Not to mention, I would be super stoked if my mom was able to work a job that allowed her to spend time with me at home, AND make delicious recipes.
I think the fact that Gigi didn’t even know that I had a job speaks volumes.
Love it!!
I wish my half Chinese, tofu and sriracha LOVING 3yo were in the audience to help you sing its praises. I think the Chinese thing helps the tofu thing, though.
They just haven’t had it made the right way
What an honor to be able to speak to little ones! So cute.
That radio host needs to take the stick out of his/her you-know-what. Obviously, they has no idea who they’re messing with. Or the amount of friends and fans that will gladly remove said stick and give him/her a pleasant smack over the head.
I told them that speaking to them was one of the best things about my job. And I meant it.
I didn’t know that you used to be a lawyer. I’m in law school right now (in my 3rd year at Seattle U, actually) and I kind of hate it. My biggest fear is: what if I hate being a lawyer? What if I get out of law school and am piled under a million dollars in debt and I hate it? What do I do then? It’s actually really inspirational to hear that you are doing so amazingly after leaving your legal career. If I were your daughter I’d be totally proud you left to pursue your dreams, and it sounds like your real daughters are proud of you
Thanks for this post. It was really great.
I was a lawyer for two years, actually pretty good at it, but totally miserable. The thing I told those kids today that I’ll tell you is that nothing is permanent. You can change your mind. You can have a new dream at any time! I’m still paying off my law school loans, a day at a time. But I won’t ever go back. So much luck to you…you’ll find what makes you happy, law or not.
I think you are an amazing role model for your girls!
Thanks, Amber.
WTF to that radio host. ugh.
Also welcome to my life with the constant questions, sharing and random interjections. Love subbing elementary school. The kids really make my day sometimes.
It was so very entertaining.
Now more than ever, children need their mothers/or fathers to stick around and do the dirty work of properly raising their families. You have sacrificied so much to have the opportunity to make a marked impact on your children; one that you can be proud of. There is no disputing that good parenting and devotion to your children will ultimately benefit the future of the entire world. Let me be one of many to thank you in advance. (I might as well pat myself on my back while I’m at it!)
My girls (6, 5 and 3) and I LOVE your book.
Thank you, Lauren! I’m not sure I have sacrificed anything. I chose to be a mom, and in doing so, they earned the right to have me be the best mom I could. For me personally, that meant staying home. But I also have a very supporting husband who has sacrificed a lot to let me live out my dream too. I’m the lucky one. And do pat yourself on the back. You sound like an amazing mom and I’m happy to have your family as Pea readers and eaters!
Oh boy when are people going to realize that degrees are never wasted, we translate those skills into all kinds of other things. Ugh.
What a cool opportunity you got to present to the class! I bet some of those kids thing Gigi is cool and wanted to be vegetarian just like her. Great idea to pass out booklets. I hope you have some new fans!
That was my follow up response. I said I don’t regret the path I took in my life…it all lead to where I am right now. And law school prepared me to defend myself against absurd radio interview questions too.
Hear hear! Education is *never* wasted. And really, it would take more than that silly question to stymie a trained lawyer.
And what if you had chosen to “give up” your legal career to ask people questions on the radio for a living – what would the host have thought of that?
Totally way more worthwhile
I agree with Kelly C…what you do DOES matter! I absolutely adore that your recipeas are easy enough for me to make when I get home from work without taking the whole night away from my daughter. It is a wonderful thing to be able to have a parent at home to raise their kid(s). My husband is a stay-at-home dad and I feel fortunate for that (mostly because I don’t have to pull her out of daycare every week due to illness:D). I would love to be at home with my daughter one day…but for now, I love my job (though definitely not as appetizing as your job) too much to try to think of something clever to do at home…and that is what matters…you love what you do.
Thank you for all you do.
That is fantastic that your husband stays home! I don’t think anyone would ever ask him if he feels like he’s setting a bad example for his children, sacrificing his career. I honestly looked into all sorts of at-home careers just so I could stay home…from catering to medical transcription. It is an absolute gift that I can work from home, and your children are blessed to have the gift of their dad at home too. Thank you for your support!
No one has asked him that. His dad does give him a hard time about it because he thinks it makes my husband unmanly (even though he is retired and disabled from the army…pretty manly, i say)…but this is coming from an absentee parent that also thinks being vegan is unmanly. I just say “pffffffft”. (and i also say “aww….hellll no!” when they try to feed our daughter chicken because “chicken is not meat…it’s poultry”).
Thanks again for all you do and all you inspire!
Oh, Mama Pea- your grace and confidence always shines through and is always so refreshing. And how lovely that you got to share your beautiful mission with little kids! They really do listen- and I hope everyone who listened to that radio interview of yours got a fresh dose of that grace and confidence while making such a meaningful difference in SO many people’s lives (including mine and my family’s!) you’re a rockstar!
Thanks, Ally. That means so much.
Wow, a dozen vegetarians! When I was growing up, I didn’t know that many vegetarians in the whole town. In fact, I probably didn’t know that many until the internet came into my life, lol. That’s pretty awesome.
Sounds like the “shock” jock doesn’t recognize that following your heart, your desires, and doing what you are genuinely good at is being a good example for your girls. I think being true to yourself, honest with yourself no matter what your career path is very important. It’s not like you gave up law for a dead-end job and your family would go hungry or took out obscene amounts of student loans to enroll in clown college with no clear future. You chose another sensible, lucrative path. And I don’t believe a law degree is ever wasted. Knowing the law is handy all throughout life even if you are not paid in exchange for your knowledge.
The only vegetarian I knew was my best friend growing up and the foods they ate were just “ick.” The host totally was just being a shock jock, but it really was such an insult coming from what I thought was an intelligent, supportive woman. Maybe not. Thanks for your support, Jenn.
hahaha kids crack me up. What fun career day must have been
And to that radio host I would argue that you are teaching your kids that family, health and happiness are more important than a “looks good on paper” job. That is a pretty great example to set if you ask me. Not enough North Americans follow their dreams and in turn inspire people daily with that passion! Also, to find a career that allows you time to stay home with your children is a win win. We should all be so lucky to have a role model like that.
Thank you, Ami. I do feel blessed to have the best of both worlds.
Sounds like a fun day! And great response to the radio host. what the poop!
Kind of off the subject, but I said “poop” at my girlfriend’s house yesterday in front of her 4-year-old and he promptly told on me. What the poop?!
Wow, I cannot believe that radio host actually said that. I think that what you do now is such a bigger thing than your job as a lawyer. Your blog/book are touching so many people, and it’s helping/changing them for the better.
Thanks, Mai, I’d like to think so too.
Law school prepared you to sue the pants off of that radio host. Not really
I did tell her it prepared me to defend myself against questions like hers. I left out the word “asinine.”
I love this story!!
And I cannot believe that a. someone asked you that question and b. that it came from a woman.
Rock on Mama Pea, Rock on.
My SIL has a Ph.D. in Bio Chemical Engineering and she is a stay at home mom to my beautiful niece and nephew. I admire you both for doing what you love and think you are awesome role models to your kids. I love that you brought mini cookbooks and talked about healthy food! Take that cops and firemen with your fancy uniforms and bad guy catching, life saving, stories… Move over, there is an author/blogger in da house!
Good for your SIL! I guess a nurse came in after me, but Gigi said she didn’t want to talk about it. She couldn’t entertain the idea that someone else was there besides me, I guess.
Sounds like you had a great Career Day. Love the mini cookbooks!
I cannot believe the nerve of that radio host. I would love to hear the rest of the interview. Your answer to her the question was priceless. I have a lot to learn from you about grace under pressure. You truly are a shinning example of Christ’s wit.
While the radio host may not have been very tactful, I do think her question was a fair one. What are we teaching our daughters when we borrow significant amounts of money to obtain a professional degree and then leave the profession at the beginning of our careers to raise our children? It’a a question I struggle with daily. Part of me would love to stay home and part of me knows that I would never get over the guilt of not using an education for which I am still paying.
Also, does this behavior encourage others to take female professionals less seriously? Will people assume that young women will only be working for a short time and will partners and professors therefore be less likely to hire and mentor female attorneys? Will our daughters feel less inclined to excel at school or pursue a post-graduate degree because the message they receive is that a career is a temporary step to marriage and not a longterm commitment?
I’m sure you made the right choice for you and your family, but I do wonder about these issues.
I think you bring up a great point. Not too long ago [probably even still now], in Japan, women were being asked at interviews about their plans, you know, to get married, to have kids, or to have a career. Though they weren’t SUPPOSED to do that, it was definitely one of the employers’ considerations when making a hiring decision.
As an attorney practicing law part-time and working for a Community Development Corporation part-time, I ask this question to myself very often as well. I’m practicing law, but I don’t know how much the degree itself helped to prepare me for the work I do, and I believe I’d be happier working in a different sector. I think many commenters have hit the nail right on the head when they say that there is more than one way to “use” an education. Many, many lawyers become business owners, fundraisers, politicians, nonprofit executives, etc. – they don’t use their degrees in a ‘traditional’ way, but I doubt anyone would question how they’ve ‘used’ their degrees.
I think there’s a big problem with the way our country perceives the work of motherhood. If we were able to place a financial value on the hours worked, the level of skill used, the value of the ‘product’ created, I think we’d see parenthood less as an alternative to work and more like an actual “job”. (I should note that this is all coming from someone who is deciding to perhaps not start a family.)
I do think it’s important that stay-at-home parents are given the time, freedom, and flexibility to pursue passions independently of their family work, just as those who work outside the home should be given the time, freedom, and flexibility to care for their families.
I also think we have to be careful when saying that career is a step to marriage. I certainly don’t think that was Mama Pea’s intention – just because she met her husband in law school doesn’t mean her education was a means to find a husband. I know you’re saying that might be a message they receive (rather than the actual truth), but I think it’s up to the parents to communicate the choices they make and the reasons behind them to their children so they can make educated decisions for themselves. Just some thoughts… as I said before, this is on my mind daily as well!
I just want to highlight the fact that what we want to do with our lives changes over time and there is no way to predict or prepare for the changes.
I went to medical school and as I approach the end of the all the required training, I’m of a much different frame of mind than when I started. At the beginning: over-driven, preparing for and planning a career in clinical research, fueled by diet soda and popcorn, maybe a husband on the side, no time for children. I was fresh out of college–how can you really know what you want to do with your life when you’ve never even lived independently?! I’m now a more balanced person, praised by colleagues as good at what I do, a cook (when there’s time!), partnered to a fellow MD I met in training, and very much looking forward to starting a (vegetarian:D) family. I want to and will practice medicine but my life goals are much different because I’ve changed and grown as a person, along with my education.
This is my very long-winded way of saying there is no crime in adjusting your priorities, professional education or not. Some people are simply prejudiced and will always take a female professional less serious than male professional soley because she is a woman–this (unfortunately) isn’t new. What we impart to our daughters is that they will have the choice (work outside the home, work as a mom inside the home, work both!) and the opportunity to make that choice for themselves (often more than once during their lives) and no one has the right to judge them on either account.
Thank you so much, Sarah.
I could not agree with you more. I graduated from college when I was just 20 and decided to go to law school. At that time, we’d just really started to use email and there certainly weren’t food blogs and I didn’t know how to cook a thing! There’s no way I could have planned this career path.
Congratulations to you on your wonderful education and even more so on your wonderful goals for your family. Thank you so much for your support.
Thanks, Shelia. I certainly didn’t go to law school to “meet a husband.” I was dating my college boyfriend at the time and I didn’t meet Pea Daddy until that relationship ended during the strain of the first year and then started dating Pea Daddy a year later. My “life plan” was to practice law for 5 years, start a family, stay home for a few years and then go back. But Gigi came along unexpectedly and we rolled with the punches.
The point of all of this, though, is that it is insulting that as a woman, I should have to explain why I’m not using my degree. As a woman not practicing law, it is assumed that I just went to law school to snag a man. Or that somehow I was any less committed to my education or career because I am a mom now.
I plan to explain all these choices to my children someday and to use my experiences to help them make their own choices. But I should not have to explain or be judged by these choices by anyone, let alone a radio host who knows nothing of me or my story.
There are much easier ways to meet a man than suffering through three years of law school!
I can’t imagine that anyone would do that.
You’re already modeling your choices and the reasons behind them by doing what you just did at career day. It’s so great that you went – even if you didn’t have the blog or the book! Your example places a value on motherhood that is important for kids (both boys & girls!) to learn at an early age.
No kidding! No man is worth taking the LSATS and then the Bar.
I like to swim too. Does that make me a vegetarian? Or a pea?
Sorry, just channeling my inner 2nd grader.
I picture you in the scene from Kindergarten Cop where they talk to the class. I’m sure they loved it and Gigi loved having you there. You are a fantastic mama who writes fantastic stories AND recipes and are a wonderful inspiration to your family and beyond.
Amen to that…when you make a choice and follow your heart you’re setting a better example for your girls than spending time doing something else!
Ahh, all those “questions” you fielded make me miss being a teacher. A profession I LOVED but so, so, so, gladly put on hold (maybe forever) to raise my bitty baby. What kind of message does it send to kiddos when theIR mom goes out and helps other people all day and pays someone else to take care of them? At least that’s the way I look at it. I know it’s a personal decision, and people have to do what works for their family – but that host…seriously? Was it live?! I would have been floored.
It was live and came on the end of about 12 other totally inflammatory questions, including remarks about grilling vegetables giving me cancer and how even though I was trying to prove a point that you can maintain your weight without working out like crazy or counting calories, she told me Pea D should really work out more. (I chuckled at that one!) I was danged close to hanging up after the “what kind of example” question though.
Wow. Was this interview live? Seems like if she asks such rude questions, she also would edit your answers to her liking before putting it on the air. Who wants to listen to a host ask rude questions anyway?
Oh no, it was live. I have the clip saved on my computer. It was a half hour of argumentative garbage. It’s actually quite funny to listen to now.
As a med student, I am relieved that this radio host has worked out what gives people cancer, now that she’s sorted that one out it’ll be nice and simple and no one will have to get cancer any more. Thank goodness she was checking up on people grilling their vegetables. If it wasn’t for her people would be eating vegetables left, right and centre and then where would we be??
And honestly, like she says, what kind of example are you setting for your little girls? Showing them that a woman can make a huge success of her own writing business while also taking excellent care of her children and finding new and fun ways to optimise their health. Shame on you!
Ha ha ha. Yes, I am going to quit grilling my vegetables and get Pea Daddy on a treadmill RIGHT NOW!
So awesome Mama Pea! I love that Gigi thinks your job is more interesting. Smart kid. Did you have a good time talking to the kids? (that is a question.) I think it is so funny that that radio lady said that! She must have a dream too, that she is not fulfilling. I can’t think of any other reason so say being so creative and creating your own brand is a “waste.” Pfft.
I kind of want to do a follow-up interview now that I know what she is really like. I’m ready this time.
Yeah totally, I always think of what I want to say afterwards too. But seriously. That was just rude. Maybe not worth your time so much?
Would you be setting a better example for your girls if you worked 75 hours per week at a job that you don’t like? If your girls rarely saw you and when they did see you,you were cranky and too tired to cook so all they ate was mcdonalds? You are showing them that parenting matters, that nutritious food is delicious, and that a woman can do something she loves AND be a good mom.
Apparently that would be a better example.
what a composed response to that radio host. boy did that put a bee in my behind. don’t even get me started on how important (and how much WORK) the job of a SAHM is. not to mention a Mama that is writing a beautiful, successful and immeasurable beneficial blog daily and a book that has, literally, changed lives. i’m so proud that you are able to stand up for yourself with confidence and pride. that is one of the greatest lessons your daughters will learn from you. THAT is an example to set for those girls. a beautiful, smart, strong, humble, successful Mama that grows her family with love. i hope to do nothing less for my family. xo!
dangit. *immeasurably* stupid typos.
Thanks, friend. I’m honored by your kind words.
SNAP. Love your response to the interviewer at the end. As someone who believes that feminism is about men and women having the right to make any kind of life/career decision and be supported in it, WOOOOT!
That radio host obviously is NOT a lawyer, haha! (Not that I have, but as a court reporter I can’t imagine wanting THAT career over yours!!
sounds like career day was a success!
Hmmm. You win some, you lose some. It seems like you won a great one though
are you kidding??? Someone actually said that to you???!! I am so disappointed. Education is education and never a waste! It helped you be the person you are now and made you a better Mother as well. I really don’t like the term “homemaker” I like what it means but I really prefer my friends to say that they are COOs of for example “Smith Corp”(last name) place your last name there. It is funny because my friends have told me that is what they say now and people do not know what to say and let it lie. My boyfriend’s Mom was a Engineer and actually helped build two bridges in the Bay. Dropped everything and fallowed her husband to medical school. Then had two children managed the OBGYN office my boyfriends Dad and his Mom co-owned. Sadly divorced but then she went to Law school and now is a lawyer for the State of California(very hard to get). So I would love for that radio host to tell her to her face that she wasted her education;) Man she would give it to him or her! Not a waist, not a bit!
I think the thing that a lot of people don’t realize, too, is that law school and college wasn’t this flippant choice I made on a whim because I had family money to spend. I come from a home where just finishing high school was seen as a big achievement for my parents. I knew growing up that if I wanted to go to college, I’d have to earn my way there and I busted my tail to earn enough scholarship money to go. Same goes with law school, though I also had to take out loans. When I gave up the practice of law, we were struggling financially. Really struggling and that meant doing without a lot of the time. But I wouldn’t have traded a single loan, a single moment in school or a single day that I had to figure out how we were going to pay for something because it meant I got to be home with my children.
Thank you so much for your support.
You are a great Mom and support given anytime:) I put myself through college too. I was the first in my Father’s family to ever graduate and the second in my Mother’s, so i totally understand.
Big hugs,
Shara
So great, I love little kids (especially my own). Thanks for being an example of “having it all”. I love what you do and how much you love your family, that alone is more than enough example of what an amazing woman is.
Thanks, Cary. You are so sweet.
I love that answer! I just laughed out loud with this post. Laughter is so healthy. Mines a green smoothie with a side of Peas and thank you, thank you!!!
Seriously, Go You!! You really are setting a great example for your girls, and the rest of America! And you should be proud… very proud!
I’m floored by that radio host’s comment. It’s a pity Gigi’s teacher wasn’t there to point out that it wasn’t an appropriate question.
I love that you did this – such a nice way to highlight that important things don’t only come in 9-5 boxes, and that you can pursue dreams outside of those boxes.
I hope my girls always look outside those boxes.
whoa! that question is a zinger.
Sometimes I do feel a little guilty that I took a seat in my law school class and then never practiced law for a day in my life. But how was I to know that it wasn’t for me until I went and then worked in the field (before graduation) only to discover that it was a terrible mistake! But I certainly have never felt that I am not the world’s best role model for my children. I am a happy, passionate, productive mom and business owner x 2. They couldn’t get a better role model. What a jerk.
Amen, Wendy! I knew you’d “get it.”
Wow! It is always amazing what folks will say isn’t it? I would’ve been floored too when that women mentioned “wasting” your law education. Proving her wrong for sure…
Same thing happened to me back in 2001 when I left my accounting world (I have a master of tax – fun!) to start a running store. One guy told me it was all a pipe dream and would ruin my life. Hmmm…I sold it for a huge profit 6yrs after opening and now have a nice investment home that I rent out…and I went back to my accounting profession. But, the store is still around, has 22 full time employees and is nearly 8,000 sq feet and 10yrs old. Yeah, that totally ruined my life.
I stll dream about the day I’m seeing that guy in Kroger or somewhere.
Life is not worth living if you’re not chasing dreams and taking risks! And, I am SO glad you’re teaching your girls that women don’t have to have traditional roles – they can do anything they dream about !!
Wow, good for you on your great entrepreneurship! I am so impressed…even if that guy wasn’t.
As an attorney that intends to continue to work once I have children, I think that question showed a lack of understanding on the part of the radio host. To some extent it seems incumbent upon media to ask “tough” questions (although inflammatory and tough are not the same thing), but this leaves out a host of other factors. For one, you should do what you find most fulfilling and rewarding, just because what that thing is has changed for you doesn’t mean it wasn’t valuable. Also, this is based upon the assumption that practicing law is a worthwhile end in itself, when in reality many lawyers are unhappy, struggle with substance abuse issues, or feel that they were promised certain things by law school recruiters which turn out to be lacking in reality.
When I interviewed for my current job I did worry that as a young newlywed the (mostly male) partners would view me as temporary and (wrongfully) expect me to get pregnant and eventually leave. Fortunately, there are many wonderful legal careers and employers out there. We should all be able to pursue our goals, even if those goals change with time.
I totally agree with you…and the statements you make about unhappy lawyers are 100% true. I know of very few people that are cut out for the practice of law. But it sounds like you are one of them. Best of luck to you in your career.
You own it! I truly think it’s more commendable of you to leave your career and embrace your family full time. Obviously, this worked out for you. It might not be the right decision for every woman but it was for you and that is all that matters. Plus, I would be much more proud to say my mom is a famous celebrity than an unhappy lawyer.
Ha ha…hardly! But thanks, Lauren.
you’ve got the toughest job out there, and you do it with style and grace! what a blessing to be able to stay at home as well. I admire that so much!
Well done mama pea, loved your answer! Crazy the way people look at raising children now a days. I also chose to stay at home after having my children, and have never once looked back. Funny now I’m starting to get a lot of questions about going back to school or work and what im going to do with my life and my kids are only 1, 2 and 3….I say im a little too busy to think about that right now! Hardest/best job in the world, thanks for being such a good example for all us moms following you!!
It truly is just now, as both girls are headed towards full time school that I even would consider getting a “real job.” I think I’ll stay with this path as long as I can, though. I hope your “job” goes well today–1 through 3? That is HARD!
First of all, stories about elementary school kids make me giggle. It almost makes me want to quit being a middle school teacher to become an elementary school teacher. Then I am quickly reminded that middle school kids make me giggle just the right amount on a daily basis.
And please tell me you’re kidding that a radio host really asked you that question. The example that you are setting for your girls is enormous: you are showing them what it means to have a passion (and how to pursue it, and then be successful at it!), as well as what it means to devote yourself and your time to your family. I can’t think of a better example to set.
I wish I was kidding. Thanks, Hil.
Thank you for the last line of your post. The whole thing was great but that one is excellent.
Why do people constantly discount the value of motherhood and of being a SAHM or a WAHM. So frustrating that many believe a woman has “wasted” her education if she chooses to stay home with her kids.
All I can surmise is those people are often childless and have no idea the work involved with child-rearing or the reward..and the benefits to everyone.
Being a parent is such hard work. And with your two, having a higher education degree is an asset as they clearly keep you on your toes…it helps that you can outsmart them for now
I feel that way with mine at least!
Thanks Averie. I’m glad you understand (and Skyler too).
Just another reason we love you Mama Pea! It always drives me crazy when I get asked when I’ll be returning to “work”, I’m guessing they mean to a “real ” job..Its time society recognizes that our work is fundamental in creating a healthier society. And you are a prime example of that. Brilliant work:)
So really, Marion, when are you returning to work?
i cant believe a radio host would say that to you (well i guess unfortunately I have heard such things before…)!! totally rude! sounds to me like you have more than a full time job writing a book, which obviously requires research and trial and error with cooking-not to mention the 2 adorable rugrats! plus a husband-full time job in and of itself
I’m with you, Jane. Thanks for your support.
The career day story is so CUTE!!!! Love it!!!!
Whoa on the radio host’s question – you handled it REALLY well. That would have turned me from zero to b*tchy in about 0.15468731 seconds flat.
I made your black bean burgers last night – EXCELLENT again!!! But I’ll confess I brought a gaggle of geese with me to work so it will be a rough morning….
Oh no…those pesky geese!
As a mom of a one high school senior and one college student, I can happily say that my choice to be a SAHM was well worth it for my family. I don’t regret a single day. I have a Master’s in education and don’t feel like I wasted my degree. It sounds like you made the perfect decision for yourself and your family! I’ve only been following your blog for about a week and you’ve already been a huge inspiration. You get to be at home with your kids AND inspire good health for multitudes of people. Be proud!
Thanks, Kathy. I think every mom that made the choice to stay-at-home would agree with you that no education, career or time was wasted. The time we have with our kids as young children is precious. But I also understand that it’s not a doable or even the right choice for everyone, and I respect that. I just always thought I’d have that respect in return.
Mama Pea, I’ve been visiting your blog since August, but this is the first time I’m contributing to the comments. Although so many readers have already given you great support in regards to today’s post, I’d like to add my vote, too. I just began my journey into veganism from a typical American, meat-filled diet this August, and feel so lucky to have found your blog. Your humor, wisdom, love, and honesty keep me coming back for more every day–not to mention your recipes! I was so impressed with your blog that I bought your book immediately (luckily I discovered you just after it was published), and now I read it for entertainment and inspiration all the time. Thank you for sharing yourself with the blogosphere as well as with your family. We all appreciate you and respect the career choices you’ve made.
And I LOVED your response to that radio host. A witty put-down wrapped in tact and wisdom. ;-D
Oh my goodness, Fran, thank you so much. I am so glad you left a comment and that I now know a little about you too. When you do what I do, you kind of open yourself up for criticism, and I understand that on many levels. I just never expected it on a live radio show where I was supposed to be promoting my book! I’m grateful for your support and I hope you continue to enjoy the blog and book!
I think I would rather spend time with first and second graders than that radio host. Yikes! Glad you were able to share that career to the kids and let them see that you can create your own path.
And after trying to teach six year olds and high schoolers about the biblical origins of Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat, I had a similar experience with questions. Except I got questions like, “Is the Bible real?” “When God told people what to write in the Bible, did he show up in person or talk in their head?”
Yeah.
I can only imagine the questions that go down at Sunday School each week
WOW! I cannot believe the host asked you that! I’d be totally caught aback, but I love your response. And if I was still a kiddie and you came to chat at my career day, I’m pretty sure I’d be running home to tell my parents about how I want to grow up and be just like Mrs Gigi’s Mom.
I hope it at least inspired them to eat their veggies last night.
you tell that radio host! Haha I’m in law school right now, and I can see it already – haha I have no idea if I’ll actually be “using” this degree in the typical sense! We shall see!
I have a book called What to Do With a Law Degree that talks about all sorts of non-traditional uses for a law degree. I’m pretty sure veggie mom blogger isn’t in there.
Did you give out those little books? I want to be back in Elementary school!
Yup, I did!
You should be quite proud!!! I want to grow up and be Mama Pea
You are setting an example to your girls of pursuing dreams, using your gifts and talents, living with passion, and giving priority to your loved ones. That’s an absolute WIN in my book!!
I think you’re a great example for you girls. How dare the radio host say that! Geez. People! What a fun career day!
I cannot believe that woman asked you that! I am insensed for you! You should have asked her what her degree was in, and then asked her if she felt she was getting a good return on her investment! (Radio dj’s are making less and less now a days from what I understand)
On a less angry note, ever since I was a kid I have admired people who follow their change of heart. My grandmother finally became a nurse in her late 40′s after a lifetime of wishing only to die at the age of 52. Even though I was only nine, I learned the lesson well. Do not waste time on doing things you do not love, and do not live a life that will have you looking back saying, “I wish I had.”
It is clear to me you will never regret the life you live or the job you have chosen. I think that is part of what makes your blog so wonderful.
That being said, brush off those lawyer skills so that you can slay evil interviewers in the future, That would make all that school well worth the investment.
Thanks, Bo. I have replayed the interview a half a dozen times and keep thinking of the things I should have said. Live radio is tough, though! I am sorry you lost your grandmother so young…she sounds like a really great woman.
As I wrap up my masters, plan a wedding, and consider which direction I want my career to take, YOU are an inspiration for what it means to raise healthy, happy kids while still enjoying a rewarding career. Obviously that radio host completely missed the point of your professional journey did not do his/her homework to see that you aren’t just “writing recipes”! Grrr!!
You tell ‘er! Thanks, Andrea. Good luck with all you have on your plate right now!
You should do what YOU love and you have found that in your life and look at how amazing you have done! You are a wonderful mom who can be at home with your girls and you published a New York Times Best Seller! I say that you are doing AMAZING! You followed your heart, sometimes we have a change in careers in our lives, its all about following your heart! Love you!
Thanks, Katie. I’ll probably be paying back law school loans for the next ten years, but I’m happy…and you can’t put a price tag on that.
Wow. People never cease to amaze me. Someone ACTUALLY said that?! I think your answer was completely perfect and absolutely and wholeheartedly agree – your girls have a wonderful role model to look up to in you!
Thanks, Cait!
I can’t believe that radio host asked that! Wow… I think what you’re doing is great. Sounds like career day was a lot of fun. Maybe there would’ve been less stories if you had brought dough balls.
They would have begged you to come back every day.
I know…I wish I could have. I don’t have a commercial kitchen and it’s against district policy to bring in homemade treats
I’m sorry, she said what now? Wow. Glad you answered that so well!
It was crazy, Nour!
Aww, I kind of wish I was back in elementary school so that I could be at career day
That was always fun!
& oooo, that hamburger helper question makes me have a question for you…do you happen to have a makeover ‘hamburger’ helper recipe?? That was one of my favorite meals as a child.
That radio host has some balls…seriously. (maybe she needs some dough balls
) I think I would of put her in her place. Who is SHE to question whta you have done with your career choice?? And HOW dare her claim that you ‘wasted’ your law school education…wow! You have done so much with your career as a writer & you have influenced & touched SO many lives with your blog & your book!! Which is SO much more than what you would of done as a lawyer. (I think, I mean, don’t take that last sentence as a negative thing..I promise I don’t mean it like that- I mean it as positive thing 
)
Whatever, Holly. You know I was headed to the Supreme Court.
I’ll get to work on that Hamburger Helper idea!
Stupid radio host.
I think you are great, and I think you are setting a great example for your girls – showing them that you can do what you love and be successful at it, instead of putting yourself in a position where you are unhappy and going through the motions of life (like so many do). In my opinion, teaching them to take a chance and follow your dreams is the most important lesson you could share
I too am an education “waster”. I didn’t find the radio hosts question an effort to stir up controvery as much as misguided and sad. You are fortunate to be able to run a profitable business from the comfort of your own home. I am very blessed that I am able to stay at home with our children. I realize not everyone is as fortunate as we are to be able to do that but it doesn’t make us wrong.
On a more positive note…good job on career day. I would have been a little scared as to what kids are going to ask or say. One of my friends is a preschool teacher and she says she hears some amazingly hilarious things in her classroom.
You are WONDERFUL. Don’t let those naysayers get you down!
I am a new reader of your blog & a big fan!
Those mini cookbooks are adorable!
Thanks, Lesli. Welcome!
I’m proud of you too! Way to be at home and put your family first.! I say it’s a great career move and a great example. We could use more of that mentality – relationships & family over the other stuff.
I can’t believe the radio announcer said that to you! I think you’re a wonderful example! Follow your heart and do what makes you happy! And, you’re helping people to make life-saving changes to their diet! It’s amazing!
Thanks, Steph.
Oh my blood would have been boiling. . . . Education is never a waste, and what you do for “work” is very honorable, educational, and inspiring.
Oh, trust me. I was livid.
I’m “floored” too that a radio host would ask such a question of you. I’m an attorney and I would never, ever judge someone who went to law school but later decided that practicing as a traditional attorney is not their dream and chooses to move on to a different career. In fact, I think it sets an amazing example for your girls that being happy is more important than doing what is expected of you. I know so many of my friends from law school who aren’t happy in their job and are thinking outside of the box about what to do with their legal education. I also believe you are not wasting your legal education. The skills you learned in law school are without a doubt helping you in your current career. Shew! Enough…btw I’m a huge fan and find your blog inspiring!
I too have many law school friends that are miserable now. I’m glad you enjoy your practice (hopefully?). Thank you so much for your support!
WHAT? What kind of person asks such a rude question? Did she ask that on the air?
Wow…what a jerk! Someone actually asked you that?! As if the only value in life is having a career that involves business suits and corporate garbage?! I’d gladly turn in my cushy job to be able to do what you’ve done! If anything, you are a role model that women really can have it all in this day and age. You can be a great mom and wife without sacrificing your own personal goals.
Shame on that radio lady. She probably needs a vacation. And she was probably just being a hater.
All I can say is that stay-at-homers ROCK!! We’re tired, underpaid, overworked….but oh, so very BLESSED!! Best job ever!
GOOD FOR YOU! You rock, Mama Pea. Tell those radio hosts who is boss. I’m sure she was jealous that she didn’t have a job as awesome as yours.
WOW that is an extremely rude comment by the radio host!!!!
being a mom and making delicious food from scratch to feed your family right is an extremely respectable job in my opinion!!!
Sounds like fun! And what kind of radio host asks that kind of question, Howard Stern…. What an A-hole, but I think your answer was perfect!
I’ve been reading for a few weeks and just had to comment on this one. I get questions like that all the time…I have a degree in nursing and a master’s in business. People don’t understand why I would “waste” my nursing degree by not working in the hospital. For the past 2 years I have had a job where I work from home and I love it! I’m single and don’t have children but it came as a real blessing. I was diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 26 last december and have just finished up treatments. My job was a blessing b/c I was able to continue working full time, even during treatment.
Then I came across your wonderful blog and am entertained every morning! I also bought your book a couple of weeks ago and have since made about 20 recipes so far. I want to try a new one every day. They are so delicious. Can you say crack wrap? =)
I say all that to say that you have inspired me to be a healthier eater, even though I’m not vegetarian. And one day when I have children, that I will be as caring and loving to them as you are to yours by feeding them right. Keep up the good work!
*Another positive thing out of all of this is my mom no longer rolls her eyes when I ask her to get something organic..she loves your recipes too!
Melanie, I think you emailed me after having been diagnosed…is that right? I am so glad you are keeping your spirits high and that you are just finishing treatment. I will pray for a quick recovery, much strength, and many crack wraps. Thank you so much for your support and I wish you so many blessings in your recovery!
Ruuuude. So nice of you not to mention the name of the radio station. She would run the risk of an all out boycott!
That radio host’s comments really get me steamed. I hate that people like her don’t recognize that the devaluation of traditionally “female” pursuits, like child care, is its own type of anti-feminism. You’re teaching your girls that they can pursue their dreams, whatever they may be.
I loved your career day story. Except — no homemade treats at school?! That is sad.
Wow. That radio host is an embarrassment. You quit a job to do something you love, and that’s supposed to be a bad example for your kids? It would be worse if you stuck with something you didn’t enjoy as much just because of a degree/money/flying shoes/whatever. I probably would have responded with a less-than-classy sarcastic remark. Good for you keeping your wits about you!
After reading the comments it looks like I’m not the only one ticked off about that radio host’s comment. I can’t even believe that . You’re supposed to follow your heart and your dreams and that’s exactly what you did and that’s awesome! That host can shove it!
Those “questions” are priceless
Career day sounds like it was a blast!
You are SUCH an amazing example to your daughters, and to their classmates as well! I’m sure that those kids brought home your delicious recipes, and told their parents to get cooking
I hope their parents will try some of the recipes. That would be fun to have made just a small impact on her class!
What kind of example is that for your girls?
The kind that says I will be there to teach you and lead you and love you and laugh with you and cry with you and play with you…
The kind that walks the talk of “you can be whatever you want to be:” a wife, a lawyer, a mom, a writer, a vegan, a great cook, a girly girl and a girl that can play ball.
The kind that lives by what she believes in.
The kind that says YOU matter more.
If I didn’t find that woman utterly ridiculous, I would be appauled.
You go Mama Pea! You are an amazing example to way more than just your girls!
A true Proverbs 31 woman!
Amen! Thanks, Shannon.
“She then explained that questions were things that had answers” – I think this is awesome!
That teacher would do a great job in a business office environment too.
“What kind of woman I am to leave my legal career, “waste” my law school education and write recipes for a living,…What kind of example is that to your girls?” – I think this is ridiculous!
I knew immediately the host was a woman and getting “the right to work outside the home” confused with “the obligation to work outside the home”. On top of that, deciding you don’t want to do your current job and stepping out to do what you want to do – also brave and very valid. ARGH!
Thanks, Heather.
I wish we’d had that “questions have answers and aren’t stories” talk when I used to go to continuing legal education seminars. These attorneys would just get up and spout out all the facts to a case they were working on. And your question is…?
I almost fell off my chair when I read that last paragraph! If influencing people to eat healthier, tastier meals (and laugh their butts, er, heads off) is a bad example, then I implore you to keep being a bad example to your girls
I will. I will be the worst.
Good for you! I’d say you are a very smart woman for figuring out how to have the best of both worlds. She should know that no education is ever wasted unless it is used solely to be stuck in a job you really don’t like. Your job also allowed you to take the time to show up for career day and be a role model to a whole roomful of kids, so good for you. How could being on a best-sellers list (or raising your children, for that matter) ever be a waste of time? That woman’s nuts! She would have been better off telling you that she likes to swim.
I agree! She also assumed that vegetarians eat chicken and fish, so maybe she wasn’t the sharpest tool in the shed to begin with.
Are you SERIOUS, the radio host really said that to you? NO education is a waste, doesn’t she know that? That’s the problem with todays society… if we step outside of the norm and really do follow our dreams some people take it as “wasting” a good education. “What kind of example are you to your girls”… are you kidding me!! A damn good one that’s for sure. Someone who is there to not only nurture them but to also teach and provide a HEALTHY way of living, something that will be invalueable when your girls grow up.
AHH, Mamma Pea, I would have been LIVID! Keep doing what you are doing.. you inspire us all!!
I am totally serious. I too was pretty fired up and frankly just insulted from one woman to another. But it’s okay if she doesn’t get it. She doesn’t have to for my “job” to still matter.
Sounds like a fun day of questions(?).
Oh man, HATE the whole “work” questions and comments. Doing what we do is so much harder without the pay, but the best “job” in the world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
Thanks for being an amazing example to all of us out there who aspire to follow in your footsteps. You are amazing!
Thanks, Kristin! I agree–raising this beautiful little people is the best job ever.
That is so wonderful… I love kids! I also LOVE how Gigi likes having you around, and not embarrassed like so many kids are to have their parents around their classmates
She got to introduce me. She was so proud and even a bit shy?
That is so cute!
I always loved career day. I’ve wanted to be a writer since I was five, and no matter what spontaneous possibilities cross my mind — ice skater, cartoon animator (I can’t draw well for the life of me!), RD — I have always, always come back to writing. Your post makes me both nostalgic for my elementary school days and excited and hopeful for my future career in writing and mentoring in some way. Discovering your blog and many others not only inspired me to start my own but also to continue to dream big, make healthy choices, and be happy. Blogging has helped me realize that I can make an impact in ways that I had never thought of before. It always warms my heart to visit your blog! Thank you.
Keep writing! And thank you for your love.
In regards to your career choice: I (hopefully) will never need a divorce attorney. I DEFINITELY will never need a divorce attorney who lives 3,000 miles away from me, but I NEED the recipes you provide (I’m not addicted, I swear). I’m so glad you made this career change! Thanks from those of us who you have really made a difference to
I don’t need to break up unhappy families. I need to enjoy my own happy one. PS I need you too, so thanks!
Just had to say hi and a send a huge congrats on the success of your book! You’re doing great things, from talks in school to tv interviews – you’re making a difference! I’m so happy for you, and hope you’re as proud of yourself as you should be. ps- I snuck in to your demo at VegFest hoping to say hi finally, but you were a wee bit bombarded by people & questions so I decided it was once again meant to happen another time. Soon.
You were there? Oh Kim! I wish we could have met!
I love the answer you gave the radio host-being a mom and a cookbook author is an amazing example for your girls! I wish you had come to my career day when I was Gigi’s age but then again, you wouldn’t have been Mama Pea yet….will you come to my high school?
Kidding! But I think it is wonderful that you were able to go!
I’d love to come to your high school!
Haha…well if you ever take a trip to Northern Virginia-I’m sure we’d love to have you!
I love this post…as a teacher I know just how opening the floor up for early elementary kids to ask “questions” goes : )
You should be so proud of the example you’re setting for your girls–do what you’re passionate about because that’s what you’ll love!
I had no idea what I was in store for with those questions…but you could tell Gigi’s teacher knew what to expect
You are the kind of woman who gives people something to look forward to every single God-given day! No matter if I’m happy or sad, I can count on your blog to make me smile. You are the kind of woman who is a role model to women like me who want to love their families well and make their tummies happy. You are the kind of woman who will really make a difference in this world and will show your daughters what kind of woman that is. Now that’s something to be proud of.
xoxo
Aww, Soo. Thank you so very much.
Career day is always so fun and interesting. In my Sunday School class I also get non-appropriate questions and stories. That’s just the way things are at that age.
Can’t believe that radio host!! What a stinker she is. So RUDE!
I haven’t had a chance to read all of the comments so I don’t know if this has been said yet, but I’d like to acknowledge the guts it must have taken to leave your career as a lawyer to stay home with your girls. ESPECIALLY when you are paying off student loans. YOU are an inspiration and I admire your gumption . I can only hope that if I am faced with a similar choice one day, I make a decision that works out as well as yours did. I suppose continuing to practice law in your misery would set a great example for your children?? Righhht .. Dream big and have enough courage to go for it .. in my opinion, you couldn’t be a better example for your girls.
Thank you, Chandra. I certainly could never have written this plan for my life, but that just makes me appreciate it all the more. And even if I wasn’t writing, blogging, cooking etc. I still don’t feel like any of this precious time would have been wasted.
Wow. Wow. Seriously? What an awful radio host! I’m impressed by the amount of grace you were able to have. I don’t know if I could have been so diplomatic.
And can I just say that the mini-cookbooks are just about the cutest things I have ever seen? Love it!
Yeah, the cookbooks were pretty cute. We had to wait until the end to hand them out for the “distraction” factor
First of all, that radio host sounds like a real…something I can’t say ’cause this is a family site.
I teach 3rd graders on Saturdays and one of my favorite lines is “Is this a question, a comment, or a story?” lol
Kids love to tell stories, its so cute. I loved this post!
Seriously?? You were really asked what kind of example you are to your girls????? Let’s see…..you taught them that:
1. Selling your soul is not an option. Being miserable for a good paycheck is never worth it.
2. Education is more than the title of your degree or the job you did at one point in your life.
3. We grow throughout our lives and just because something worked for us when we were 25 does not mean it still works for us at 35 (or whatever age).
4. God sometimes gives us our dreams a little at a time. And that’s a good thing.
5. Most important, you taught them that you made them your priority and that their dad supported you in that. And that lesson is priceless.
And as a final comment, one day when you share this with your girls you will show them that grace can be summoned even when that’s the last thing you want to do. I think that’s enough example for one day.
I am so moved by your words. Thank you, Nancy.
Let’s not forget what kind of example you are to the scores of females who read your blog. You are a great example to us all. Plus, you can be smart and funny without using profanity (something I’ll start working on someday).
Maybe.
Thanks! I’ll buy you a Swear Jar.
Hi Mama Pea,
Lovely post! I really appreciate the comment you made to that radio host and sorry that you had to deal with such an intrusive question. I’m a (part time) working mom with a PhD, working as a senior consultant for one of the world’s biggest tech companies. What I find particularly ridiculous about that comment is 1) the inherent assumption that you ‘use your education’ just because you have a job (guess how often I don’t use my PhD every day, hmmmmm? go ahead…. ), 2) education doesn’t apparently have value beyond obtaining a paycheck, and 3) that being honest with yourself, making tough decisions and knowing your own priorities and preferences isn’t a huge part of the lesson you ARE teaching your girls.
Of course every woman with a career spends excessive time worrying about and dealing with the issue of motherhood vs. career. No matter what you choose, it’s not easy and there are enormous compromises to be made. Nonetheless, one day we’ll both sit down with our kids and tell them the reason we chose what we did is to do the best we could with the tools we had available at the time. That we understood what was important to us, even though it was hard. You are clearly thriving with the choice you’ve made and that, all by itself, is reason to celebrate and be proud. Keep on keeping on, Mama Pea!
What an intelligent comment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Melanie. I especially enjoy your comment because even though your own choices are slightly different than mine we both can fully understand and respect the other’s choice. Thank you.
Wow! Great answer to that radio host! I think you set a great example for your girls to follow their dreams and have a job that makes them happy. I just withdrew from law school after a year to pursue a master’s degree in sociology and eventually non-profit advocacy work. It was the hardest decision of my life, but one that I am so happy about when I read posts like this one. Thanks for being an inspiration!
Good for you! Thank you so much for the very important work that you do!
My dad used to be everyone’s favorite at career day… probably because he always brought lots of stickers and posters and pens. Who doesn’t like free things with pictures of satellites on them?
You should be proud of that example! You are choosing to invest in what lasts and that is a legacy that continues with your daughters. I’m so glad you had the appropriate answer to give that radio host – I would have thought of it on the way home! ; ) Blessings to you!
I was actually at home and Lulu was in the other room. I thought, “I gave up my time playing with her to deal with this?! Seriously?”
I CANNOT believe that radio host said all those things to you!?!? that it beyond unbelievable, I think you have so much to be proud of. You do what you love and still have the means to spend quality time with your family. When I “grow up” (done with college) I would love to do what you do…congrats for being classy and not chewing that ahole out =)
I was *this* close from just hanging up. On live radio.
In what way does managing a household, developing recipes, managing a writing career, organizing book tours, rocking multiple interviews, and raising two children etc. count as NOT using your degree?
Isn’t a law degree all about critical thinking, problem solving, writing, communication…?
And defending attacks from irate radio hosts?
The thing is, not only have you set a great example for your children you have also set a great one for so many moms out there.
I think you have the best job ever! I was surprised to encounter people (women yet too!) at my work who think that strong, smart women are suppose to put their careers before everything else. They make women feel guilty for leaving to take care of sick kids, etc. What kind of feminism doesn’t recognize and respect the really important role of mothering? Not to mention, that people are people and should be respected for just BEING, and not what they DO (though I think mothers do quite a lot of important, demanding work!!!).
oh wow what a tactless radio host! clearly she doesn’t read your blog coz she doesn’t know Gigi and Lulu.
just look at your precious little peas and you would know you and Mr. Gigi’s Dad are doing an excellent job.
undeniable.
Ha ha, thanks. I like to think so too.
What a great answer to an ignorant comment. I am sure I don’t have to tell you that what you are doing is wonderful. After becoming a stay at home mom almost 2 years ago and having some doubts at first. A wise mom told me, “You can always go back to work or school, but you can never go back to your kid’s childhood” When I am having one of “those days” I always remember this and it helps. Thanks again for all you do.
My mom says that all the time! I hope your day gets better…hang in there!
I can’t believe a radio host would say that! How rude. I think you’re doing a great job, and the important thing is that you are doing what’s right for you and your family.
you may have “wasted” a very conventional formula for success…..but you created your own, which requires even more bravery, intellect, and grace. Your girls are lucky to have a mom who sets a great example! and those little cookbooks are adorable. Way to start them early, mama
A radio host actually asked you that? Stuff some dough balls in her face right now. No, she doesn’t even deserve dough balls in her face. Some people really irk me. I think it’s amazing that no matter how busy you are, you find the time to do important (yes, IMPORTANT) things for your girls like show up at Career Day. You remind me of my mom in how you always put your kids first. No law degree can compete with that.
Thanks, Jen. Faith, family and friends always come before work for me. I would be miserable (and have been!) any other way.
I love your last answer…Good for you! What right do we have to judge another person for the choices he/she has made- for themselves, or their families? You are doing what you love, and are brave enough to share your experiences and knowledge with others. Thank you for that.
I’m outraged that someone would say that to you about leaving your career behind and setting a bad example for your daughters. No one career is more important or more worth pursuing than any other career, and following your heart and passion is without a doubt the most courageous thing a person can do. It’s so easy to follow the money and the straight and narrow path.
Shame on that journalist for being so narrow minded! It’s especially irritating because I suspect that since that person choose journalism as a career that they have a strong inclination to tell stories too! In a way, she’s putting herself down as well.
WOW, I guess that radio host wanted to create some drama for her show. What a nightmare. Good answer though!
Those kids are adorable. I love the kind of questions they fire at you. Well done for surviving Career Day!
Woah! I think the best example is the one you’re setting for Gigi and Lulu; to work hard at something you love and makes you happy.
“WASTE”?????
Who IS this woman?!?!
I would give up anything and everything to be able to work from home, do something I love and show my daughters that pursuing your dreams is worth the risk.
I hope you had a nice hand gesture for her!!
FYI, THIS: http://www.poppoff.com/Home_Page.php is “this woman”
I cannot BELIEVE that radio host! I could go on forever about how I wish more people like you would raise children instead of the pregnant woman I saw today dragging a young child down the street with one hand, a cigarette in the other. Instead, I will tell you how much I admire you, and how much I’m sure those kids enjoyed your presentation.
THE NERVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Good for you for your response to that question! (The one about your career, not about Hamburger Helper.) I just wanted to say that I think you have set the BEST possible example for your children. One of the biggest priorities my mom had when she raised me was to teach me that a) you should always do what you love–no matter what that is or how often it changes–and b) nothing is permanent. I am currently in my third year of college and am just exploring; I have no idea what I want to do.
If you were trained to be a lawyer and later decided to wanted to be a damn garbage woman, then by all means I believe you should go for it. I really think you have done a wonderful thing and set an amazing example for your girls (and anyone else who meets you) by showing them that no matter what you have done or are doing, you can and should always do whatever makes you happy, regardless of what path everyone else takes. And look at the success you have earned! You are inspiration to so many people. My coach tells me, “If you love what you do, you won’t work a day in your life.” And she is so right. Thank you, Mama Pea. (And my mom would thank you, too!)
Thanks, Michele. And I promise you, I don’t work a day in my life.
What an awesome story!
My parents have sacrificed a lot for me and my brother to live comfortable lives and attend college debt-free — I don’t believe they have always been happy in their career paths, but am fairly certain (and make sure I am thankful) they felt as though it was their only option to provide for us.
I believe you set an unbelievably positive example for Gigi and Lulu to take pride and confidence in what you choose to pursue in life and should never be chastised for it. Go MP!
Thanks, Jared. You have some amazing parents. I do too…they instilled a great work ethic in me, and even though I still have law school debt, they’ve taught me how to work my way out of it!
You go girl!! Love your perfect response to that lame radio host. Who would ask that anyway!
I just got back from 6 days out in the outback of Australia. It wasn’t a vegan experience, mostly, but that’s not the point of this post.
As I sat around a campfire I let tears flow when the question was posed “what type of footprints would you like to leave behind?”
I was 4 when my mom chose to leave…and although we are close now…I didn’t have someone who come to career day, make me snacks, put my hair into high buns w/ bobby pins or make me tofu pie. The point being, after three degrees, a huge debt, and numerous hours ‘building up my career’…the thing that would give me the MOST pleasure in life is using my education and life experience to raise beautiful, well-rounded, food-educated, independent, emotionally stable, generous, creative children. I can’t imagine anything more rewarding in life. I guess being a working mom from home, raising your kids has now been trumped by awards, plaques, and accolades that have nothing to do with family and/or sustainability. It erks me, it’s a post-feminsit mentality that drives me crazy. I can be everything that I’ve wanted to be and still raise children…in fact I reckon I’d be a lot more fulfilled.
(off my soap box)
love you, love what you do…and thanks for not backing down.
Thanks, Michele. Come back to Oregon. I’ll do your hair and make you pie.
Geez that radio host sounds like a real sweetheart. My mom also left the practice of law to raise us girls, and I think I benefited from it. I mean, I’m pretty normal, right?
She did? That’s great! I never knew that about your mom.
WOW that radio host had a lot of nerve. Not to be weird, but you’re basically my career idol!! I would love to do what you’re doing someday… you’re such an inspiration! You’re raising an amazing family while making the world a healthier place and for that you should be extremely proud!
P.S. I wish I would have gotten a meatless cookbook at MY career day! What lucky kids
They were pretty excited about those recipe cards. Gigi said they were all talking about the banana muffins today
I love that you went to career day!
I think it is a great message to tell kids to follow their dreams and it is certainly never too early to start!
Wowsers….waste a law degree to write recipes. That’s bold.
Here’s how I see it, you’re a very intelligent, charismatic, smart woman and you did what made you happy then, and what makes you happy now. No waste involved!
I can’t stand the whole stay at home mom vs career mom war. People need to worry about themselves sometimes. Thank you for being an inspiration in your confidence in your decision.
A happy mom makes a happy home. So do what makes you happy.
I think you said it all right there. Thank you!
True that, Mary! MamaPea, you truly are an inspiration! Thank you!
I hope that lady gets a kick in the pants for asking what kind of mom you are to leave your job to be a MOM. Goodness…pretty sure you got the better end of the deal and so did your girls! Looks like it was a fun day
I definitely got the better end of the deal!
What kind of a woman would ask such a question? Without sounding all barbaric and 1920′s on you, I think the country would be a much better place if more parents stayed home. I’m all for women’s lib and believe in equal rights, etc, but having a mom that stays home is a beautiful thing. Heck, having a dad that does the same is great – I think it’s just important that someone is there. And this is coming from someone who will, more than likely, have to put her kids in daycare based on my and my fiance’s salaries. I just don’t see us living on one income, so I’m not judging. But I am saying that staying home with your children is, to me, WAY cooler than being a hot shot lawyer.
I tend to agree with you. There just happen to be a lot of bitter, angry people out there who want to rain your sunshine for unknown reasons.
I can’t believe she asked you that. I’m glad you’re proud of yourself! As for the example you’re giving to your girls.. you’re giving them the best possible one you could: follow your dream and be happy!
Oh btw, while I was in Barnes and Noble yesterday I took a copy of your book and stuck in in the staff recommendations section.. =)
When did you get a job at B&N?
(thanks!)
Oooh that could be bad.. I’d end up with no paycheck!
Great answer! I hope you were on the air at that time and that she felt like the moron she is.
My elementary school “career day” was not nearly that exciting!
You can be proud indeed! (what a question to ask, I would have been so annoyed).
I am in LOOOOOOOOVE! My mum is kinda scared now, but I know she will love your recipes.
I finally got home to my parents and guess what I found laying on my bed? Your book
That’s fantastic! Welcome home!
WOW!!!!!!!!!!!! I was just looking for a cookie cake recipe. My high school graduation cake was actually a cookie cake with frosting…totally nerdy but it was exactly what I wanted..and still want…all day…everyday. Ha!! Anyway I could make it with gluten free flour..almond flour and stevia? Maybe make a recipe in the future thats gluten free/sugarless? I am star struck for this recipe!!
Ps: I made your “cheeze” stuffed burgers the other night with chipotle spiced sweet potato fries and my meat lover family LOVED IT!!
Thanks!!
FloraChild
http://www.etsy.com/shop/florachild
http://www.mybreakfastblog.com
I hope you try making it (with any of the subs you need to!).
Amen! I’m in the same boat. Sort of.
I just quit my full-time job with a salary and benefits to work part-time at a coffeeshop, blog, and be a more available housewife. I’m sure I’ll get those questions eventually, and while I’m not usually good about explaining my point when put on the spot, I know why I chose this, and I’m quite proud of it.
That radio host was just jealous, and so am I, ha. Love what you do and glad you are proud of it because you should be!
I agree!! Your blog is so wonderful!
How dare you give up practicing law to pursue a newly found passion that brings joy to both your family and people all around the world! Are you trying to teach your daughters to follow their dreams or something?? For shame.
In all seriousness, women just can’t win in the motherhood versus career debate. Shame on the radio host for stepping on, instead supporting, a fellow woman.
First of all I still can’t believe that radio person said that to you. Ugh–how annoying. Second, how awesome that Geej found your job more interesting… um, yeah, Geej, my dad is an attorney too and I never asked him to come to Career Day (not that we had one, but if we did, just saying.) Love the mini cookbooks! You are always going above and beyond, you amaze me.